Pound Pup Legacy

I found my kids doing something that really triggered me.... they were playing the "Fall-Back Trust Game"

I remember playing that "game" as a kid.

I remember being dropped or "missed" many times, too.

I try not to use my past as the measure all people will act/react... but damn it to hell...

Well, let's just say my kids are teaching me how trust can exist within a family unit.

I've been reading alot about false allegations of sexual abuse , and how it is rare for a child to lie about something that did take place.  However, I think there are many reasons why a victim will use another person's name when making a confession.

Below is a story that I'd like to share so others can see how there can be much truth behind a false allegation. [Names are withheld to help protect the identity of victims involved.]

I try to read each and every case posted within our Abuse Pages. 

It's not easy.

It's not easy reading about the alternative endings so many adoptees are given.

For me, the pain becomes very personal, so I need to pace myself.... the images,fears and realities resurface in my own memory, and I need to be careful.  [My kids hate seeing me cry, especially when I can't tell them or explain to them why  I sob after reading only a few sentences on a web-page.]

I have read many pieces about the fluid-nature of our thoughts and memories.  The latest I read is called "Faith in Memory".  I liked it because it was in reference to Italian-American Catholic culture.... the culture I was not born into but raised in, thanks to my adoptive family.

Some think of memory as a "stream of consciousness"; others think of it as being selective for a reason.  In any case, I see memories as teaching tools, and the lessons can be many.

With the economy being bad, even Santa is getting a new list of "special requests" made by wishful thinking children these days.  See:  "Ho ho ho! Kids share economy woes with Santa"

Every once-in-a-while I read a book that mentions the phrase "was adopted".  The adopted person turns out to be either a serial killer or a very successful doctor/lawyer/chief of something.  Rarely is more detail given as to why some adoptees become so agreeable, and why some adoptees become so angry.

40 years later, the Vatican wants to publish their offering of forgiveness to a young punk who believed he and his mates was more popular than Jesus, the Christian Savior.  [See:  "Vatican forgives John Lennon".]

I'm at odds today... I read yet another email from a very concerned woman who happens to be a foster/adoptive parent.  This very kind woman has written to me several times, explaining what Attachment Therapy has done to her and to her son, and how she wants others to be warned about the dangers being spread within the adopting communities.  Do I send her a personal response, or do I let her concerns reflect a much bigger message of parental-concern?

The fevered frenzy for selling adoption's benevolence is almost upon us, thanks to America's Adoption Awareness month.

More than saving poor orphans, adoption improves the lives of many.

At least that's what the adoption industry is hoping every God-Fearing man and woman will believe.

When I read blogs/posts about the cost of adoption, and the many ways and means PAP's can raise the money needed to save a child, I wonder:  Who's paying for the grave mistakes made in child-services?

When I first entered the adoption web-circuit, almost 10 years ago, I was very naive and innocent in a very odd and peculiar way.  Truthfully, computers and the internet were literally brand-new to me, (I had never owned or used a computer before 1998), so I actually believed it was sheer providence that within the first days of fooling around with internet options, I found adoption.con's website.  The adult adoptee support section, (where personal adoption/relationship issues could be openly discussed), was exactly what I wanted since I had just recently decided