Supernatural adoptions, and the depression that follows
- Operation Delivery (Gotcha) Day
- Real life: What makes a good adoptive parent?
- International adoption vs. women's rights
- Meeting the First Family: what are these AP's thinking?
- An adopter's blame-game, and going to war
- Length-of-stay in a foreign country
- Rights of children key issue in applying best practice to inter-country adoption
I was reading in a blog the supernatural ways in which infertile women can have a baby, through adoption.... thanks and praise given to God, of course.
Oddly enough, with the super-natural help of God, (and adoption agencies and orphan-centers is places like Korea, where young single unmarried mothers have not been encouraged to keep their babies after birth....until recently) there also comes the super-natural mis-carriage of justice.
In the past week we have talked, grieved and cried over the recent changes in Korea. In some ways the difficult news felt like a miscarriage, or the loss of a dream. However, God has been speaking to us over and over again about trusting His timing and His perfect plan. This week I have been reminded of our infertility journey and of the supernatural way in which God led us to adopt!
[From: Tremendous Encouragement From Friends in a Time of Sorrow... , June 9, 2011 ]
Umm.... is Korea's changing rules to adoption to a foreign infertile adopter much like a pregnant woman's miscarriage? Is that what these adopters are now claiming? Because I gotta inform people -- the cramping, bleeding and the hormonal shifts that take place after a miscarriage is NOT the same as feeling depressed after one learns the adoption policy/process in a foreign country is about to change. Really.
This leads me to my next question. Are these emotional roller-coastering PAMoms likely to be candidates for
post-partum Post Adoption Depression, too? If so, can we weed these PAPs out of Adoptionland, ASAP -- for the sake and best interest of truly orphaned adoptable children?
Last, but certainly not least... what do others think about the begging for donations to help pay international adoption costs? The blogger noted above claims she needs $35,000 to help make her adoption dreams a reality. So far she received $6,000. To justify the 'need' for so much money, she writes:
Unfortunately, we lost nearly $15,000 when our adoption in El Salvador failed. We are currently raising $35,000 to cover our Korean adoption costs. These costs include immigration fees, social worker visits, medical visits and evaluations, airline tickets and travel costs, Korean country fees and home study agency and adoption agency fees. Please pray for us as we apply for grants to help cover these required funds.
Do these PAPs think about the many single-mothers in Korea... the ones who could use that money, and care-services, instead?