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A closer look at contested adoption


    Not many people know who Madison is or the spefics of her attempted adoption.Madison was born aug.30,2006 in ft. bend county TX. Her mother was signed on with an adoption agency and the prospective parents that she chose had traveled from NC for the birth. The mom had come from Maine specifically to place her child. At the birth the only person she wanted present was her fiancee, so the prospective parents waited in a room down the hall for the joyous news. When Madison was born she was taken from the delivery room and placed into the waiting arms of the prospective mom who was patiently waiting to be "gifted" a child she could love and raise as her own with her husband. This was the third time they had tried to adopt and they prayed fervently that it wouldn't fall through this time. How do I know this? I am Madisons father.

    On aug.4,06 I recieved a phone call from my girlfriend. She told me she was in TX and had decided to place our child for adoption and hung up. I was in Maine at home with not a clue as to what to do and no way of finding her. On the web I found "Legalized Lies" and with help learned of and filed an intent to claim paternity as the law requires in TX. Then on aug.24,06 I was served a lawsuit to terminate parental rights from an adoption agency in ft bend county TX. Again with the help of Jes I filed an answer with the courts and agency and began searching for an attorney in TX. On aug 28 I called the agency and notified them of my intent to contest and tried contacting their attorney to inform them as well.I called again on aug.31 to find out my daughter had been born just before 7am aug.30. I was not given any details or health information, just told when she was born. I asked for futher details and again stated my intent to contest only to be hung up on.

    I found an attorney and filed another answer with the court and moved to Houston TX on nov 6,06.  It wasn't until late dec. we found out she was not in TX and found out she was in NC in april 07. In may a temporary orders hearing was heard and visitation was ordered to begin immedeatly. The prospective parents of course were not happy, they hired an attorney and intervened in the case.I finally got to meet my daughter in late july 07. Needless to say supervision due to flight risk was required and ordered. The supervisors would be provided by the agency and during this time court hearings, various testing and multiple other hoops were thrown in my path. The potential parents and agency made visitation as difficult as possible and time went by as delay after delay was brought up. During that time motions were filed by the agency to compel both active duty records from my service in the army and my VA records which the judge granted despite the privacy act of 1974 and the freedom of information act that states a federal judge is required for release unless there is a criminal case pending which this was not. These records and every record generated from the age of 18 to present(36) were used in trial.

     After 2 years and following a bogus accusation by the potential parents that led to my arrest fifteen minutes into visitation and in front of Madison, the judge decided trial would happen in oct 08. At trial The agency flew the birth mother down and lodged her as she had filed for joint custody with the potential parents if I was not terminated. after two and a half weeks the jury deliberated and decided that the birth mother who voluntarily abandoned Madison would be terminated. I as the father would not be terminated but due to Madisons developmental stage the jury left the potential parents as managing conservators and left visitation up to the discretion of the judge. In dec08 the final order was handed down. There was no adoption. I am legally her father and now pay 202.50 in child support and 150.00 for medical expenses for my daughter with no visitation. I know you ask how. I do to. two and a half years of my daughters life,over 200,000 of expenses, all legal requirements fulfilled in a timely manner and refused prior to birth both verbally and in writing trying to protect my childs rights and my own only to be shafted by the very system I swore an oath to defend. I learned that fathers have no rights in TX and that the agency opinion is that a father exercising his rights is causing trouble.

    I know what your thinking and no. I have no felonies or jail time in my past. Marijauna was a past issue testing proved it was on several occasions(hair folical and urinalysis). I'm honorably discharged and treatment at VA was for PTSD from combat. No these are not present records. Active duty discharge was nov 95 and last VA appointment was in 98. no domestic violence,pedophile,drug,rape or other charges ever filed. The most important thing I have learned is that the media and government do not want to show the dirty side of adoption. This was an at-risk adoption where a child was sold for the sum of 39,600 against the parents wishes.