Mom accused of having sex with adopted son

KEITH COUSINS

COEUR d'ALENE - The case of a Rathdrum woman accused of having sex with her 14-year-old adopted son will be tried by a jury in Kootenai County.

Kimberly Durlin, 32, was charged with five counts of lewd conduct with a child under the age of 16 in November of 2014. A jury trial is scheduled to begin April 20.

On Nov. 18, 2014, Durlin was with her son at a therapy session in Hayden when the boy allegedly told his therapist that he and his mother were having sex. The therapist then notified her supervisor of the allegations and, according to court records, the supervisor said the boy should go home with Durlin while the office notified Idaho Health and Welfare.

However, shortly after leaving, the teen returned to the office and said he did not want to go home. The therapist later told a Rathdrum Police Department officer that the boy said he got into the car, and Durlin angrily said "You told them, didn't you?"

After discussing options with the therapist and a Child Protective Services employee, the officer wrote that they decided to place the boy in protective custody.

The next day, Durlin went to the Rathdrum Police Department to speak with a detective about the allegations. In his report, the detective wrote that Durlin and her husband adopted the boy when he was 11.

"She told me that (he) had never really bonded with her and she has struggled with this since the start of their relationship," the detective wrote. "She told me that she has tried just about everything to kindle that relationship and nurture their bond."

Durlin then allegedly provided details of multiple sexual encounters with the boy, beginning in October. After giving this information to the detective, Durlin allegedly "showed signs of being emotionally attached" to the teen "as a lover instead of being a mother."

"The feelings she expressed were more along the lines of a female being hurt by a boyfriend or possible husband," the report states. "She felt like she was being used as a sex object."

After the interview, the detective arrested Durlin and transported her to the Kootenai County jail. Once at the jail, Durlin allegedly asked the detective what the consequences were for the charges she was facing.

"I read the consequences straight from the code book," the detective wrote. "When I looked up and looked into her eyes I could see large tears in her eyes."

When the detective contacted the boy's adopted father for a follow-up interview, the man allegedly told the officer that he didn't want to hear any more details about the case and said he planned on giving up his parental rights.

"I explained that this is a little more difficult than just giving up his rights," the report states. "He did not care to listen to me."