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by Kerry and Niels on Thursday, 03 January 2013

Over the last couple of weeks, Adoptionland has been up in arms regarding the Russian decision to ban inter-country adoptions of Russian children by American adopters. Yesterday, January 2, the Washington Post added the umpteenth article on the topic, focusing on the group hardest hit by the ban: evangelical Christian adopters.

Over the years, we have paid much attention to the so-called orphan crusade, a mission that is immensely popular among evangelical Christians. The adoption zeal of evangelical Christians is problematic because it arises from faith not from facts and evidence. This is all the more an issue since rational debate is not welcomed when zeal meets revved-up emotions.

In that light, it is not so bad that the group hardest hit by the adoption ban are evangelical Christian adopters. After all, it is a group of adults with desires, not a group of children with needs.

The case presented in the Washington Post article is an interesting one. It revolves around a boy named Anton, adopted by the Delgado family from Fort Worth, Texas. Anton was born as one of two twin boys to a surrogate mother. Learning about the boy's condition, Recessive Dystrophic Epidermolysis Bullosa, which makes the skin fragile and prone to blistering, Anton was no longer wanted and eventually put up for adoption.

by Kerry and Niels on Thursday, 15 November 2012



For seventeen years, in America, November has been earmarked as National Adoption Awareness Month. Its origins can be found in an initiative by Gov. Dukakis of Massachusetts in 1976. His adoption awareness week was promoted to the national level by President Reagan, and with President Clinton's approval, the entire month of November became the official month to honor and promote the merits of adoption, and bring more public awareness to otherwise little known facts and figures related to adoption laws, practices, and adopted people.

To add more luster to National Adoption Awareness Month, members of congress set up the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute (CCAI), a group of senators and representatives that each year organizes the Congressional Angel in Adoption Award gala. This gala is a meet-and-greet opportunity between members of congress, representatives of the adoption industry and sponsors of CCAI (predominantly oil companies for one reason or the other).

Over the years, the Angels in Adoption Award has become an adoption agency love-fest, where members of congress nominate adoption attorneys and directors of adoption agencies for the mere fact of running a business.

For generations, the adoption industry and the world of politics have worked hard to create it's own codependent-relationship. For politicians, the pro-adoption movement is a safe morality-based subject matter turned social service to stand behind, making it an ideal topic to appeal to their constituents. For the sake of business interests and economic growth, both adoption attorneys and adoption agencies depend on lax regulation and little oversight to keep their adoption services alive and strong.

Pound Pup Legacy was founded six years ago, in answer to the many biased opinions and censored facts promoted by the pro-adoption movement and those who applaud, without question, the nominees and recipients of CCAI's Angels in Adoption.

by Kerry and Niels on Thursday, 15 November 2012

Abuse in adoptive families is an under-investigated topic. The assumption is often made that screening of prospective adopters weeds out inappropriate candidates. Despite screening, every year dozens of abuse cases make the news, while an unknown number of cases remain unreported. In some cases the abuse is so severe, the adopted children actually die.

Inappropriate adoptive placements are not a new phenomenon. On September 28, 1854. the New York Times ran an article with the title: Murder of an Adopted Child in New-Orleans, describing the abuse and subsequent death of Christian Rohnor, a two-year-old boy, adopted by a couple from New Orleans. Christian Rohnor was locked up in the attic, starved to the point of being completely emaciated, and eventually beaten to death by his adoptive father.

We may be tempted to think the era Christian Rohnor lived and died is long gone and as a society we have become more humane towards adopted children. We may think that adoption practices have become more sophisticated and nowadays adhere to strict standards. Yet, over the years, hundreds of children have been locked up, starved and beaten to death by their adoptive parents. Some children have literally been tortured and others have been sexually abused within their adoptive family.

Severe abuse of adopted children triggered the State of Washington this year, to set up a committee to investigate the issue. This committee came back with a devastating report concluding that the state provided "inadequate oversight," education and licensing of private adoption services; adoption cases were not sufficiently tracked, particularly cases where a final adoption did not go through after a child was placed with a family; evidence was found that showed some prospective parents were "shopping" for positive pre-adoption feedback; and, documents were not filed with courts as required by state law.

by Kerry and Niels on Wednesday, 12 September 2012

Every year the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute(CCAI) organizes a gala where Members of Congress can give an Angel in Adoption Award TM to constituents of their state or district who have been advocates for adoption.

Originally intended to champion the adoption of children from foster care, the Angels in Adoption Awards have grown into an adoption industry love-fest, awarding adoption attorney's, directors of adoption agencies and other representatives of the adoption industry.

Many of the recipients of the Angels in Adoption Awards have nothing to do with adoption from foster care, and their main achievement is making a sound business out of the commerce in children.

In 2007 Pound Pup Legacy instituted the annual Demons of Adoption Awards to raise a voice against adoption propaganda and the self congratulatory practices of the

by Kerry and Niels on Thursday, 02 August 2012

The Christian Post is at it again. After having posted three extremely biased articles about inter-country adoption earlier this year, they now continue their barrage of misinformation, linking it to the presentation of the documentary "Stuck".

Stuck

is produced by Both Ends Burning, an organization whose goal is to expand inter-county adoption by a factor of five. Both Ends Burning is the brain child of former football player Craig Juntunen, after being ticked off by the level of red tape he met when trying to adopt himself.

The mentality behind Both Ends Burning is made very clear in an interview, Kathryn Joyce held with Juntunen, for the article The Evangelical Adoption Crusade

by Kerry and Niels on Wednesday, 11 July 2012

Yesterday, the Baptist Press published an interview with Tony Merida, the author of the book Orphanology, a book promoting adoption and orphan care on an evangelical basis.

Let's dissect the article in order to get a better understanding of the movement that has been taking over the adoption system over the last 10 years. The article starts introducing the author of the book:

Every adoption story is unique, but the tale of how pastor and author Tony Merida came to see he should adopt -- essentially, through his own sermon -- likely is quite rare.

The uniqueness of things is of course debatable. In The Good, the Bad and the Ugly, Blondie says:

by Kerry and Niels on Monday, 20 February 2012

This weekend, the Christian Post published its third installment of their saga about inter-country adoption, under the title: Is the US State Dept. Opposed to Inter-Country Adoption?

It is a curious little piece, claiming to give an answer to the question why the number of inter-country adoptions over the last 8 years have dropped significantly. Unfortunately the article doesn't investigate the matter, but tries to prove a preconceived idea, that the Hague Convention, UNICEF and the policies of the Department of State are to be blamed for this decline.

The bias of the article is overwhelming, so we'd like to dissect it for our readers and put this piece into perspective. The author starts with the following:

In 2004, Americans adopted 22,991 orphans from other countries. That number has steadily declined to only 9,319 in 2011, according to State Department records. This decline is happening due to a set of complicated factors based partly upon different views regarding what is best for an orphaned child.
by Kerry and Niels on Tuesday, 01 November 2011

Today is November 1, marking the start  of Adoption Awareness Month. For Pound Pup Legacy this marks the day to announce the “winner” of the Demons of Adoption Awards.

The Demons of Adoption Awards have grown into an anticipated annual event, followed by many in the adoption community, and is a critical voice kicking off Adoption Awareness Month.

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Last year we added an even more sobering element to the start of the adoption love-fest, introducing Rohnor's Angels, honoring those children who died this year due to abuse in their forever family.

by Kerry and Niels on Tuesday, 01 November 2011

On September 28, 1854. the New York Times ran an article with the title: Murder of an Adopted Child in New-Orleans, describing the abuse and subsequent death of Christian Rohnor, a two-year-old boy, adopted by a couple from New Orleans. Christian Rohnor was locked up in the attic, starved to the point of being completely emaciated, and eventually beaten to death by his adoptive father.

The story of Christian Rohnor is almost entirely forgotten and we may like to think those barbaric times are long gone. We may be compelled to think that in the 156 years that have passed since the death of Christian Rohnor, adoption standards have been raised to the point that such horrific abuse of an adopted child no longer takes place.

Christian Rohnor may have been the first documented case of lethal abuse in an adoptive family, his death was certainly not the last. To this day adoptees are abused and killed by members found in their new "forever family". Every year there are several cases of adopted children being tortured to death, shaken to death or disciplined to death. 156 years after the cruelties performed on Christian Rohnor, there are still adopters who choose not to love,  care for and protect their young additions, but instead, choose to lock up the children in their care, starve them, sexually abuse them and beat them, sometimes to death.

In memory of Christian Rohnor, we honor the children who met their death due to abuse in adoptive families since Adoption Awareness Month 2010.

by Kerry and Niels on Tuesday, 20 September 2011
  • Paperback: 272 pages
  • Publisher: NASW Press (March 21, 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0871014157

This year it is 160 years ago, Massachusetts passed the Adoption of Children Act, generally recognized as the first modern adoption law. Most other states followed Massachusetts' example in the following decades. At the time, adoption was mostly a legal matter, but that changed during the Progressive Era.

During the first decade of the 20th century, the field of social work started to develop, and became the centerpiece of modern day child placement practices.

One of the primary activities of social workers in adoption and foster care is the screening of prospective parents, but despite formal requirements in almost all states, there is hardly a set of best practices to guide social workers in their screening job.

How to Screen Adoptive and Foster Parents: A Workbook for Professionals and Students, fills that void. James L. Dickerson, Mardi Allen, and Daniel Pollack have written a practical handbook for social workers faced with the task to screen adoptive and foster parents.

The book is divided in twelve easy to read chapters, guiding the social workers through the intricacies of the screening process.

Much emphasis is given to the legal position of the social worker, who may face litigation from authorities when adoptive or foster parents have not been properly screened and from prospective parents for libel, defamation or invasion of privacy.

Working as a screener is an ethical minefield, and How to Screen Adoptive and Foster Parents provides lots of practical information to deal with the various ethical issues that may arise in the process.

Dickerson, Allen and Pollack propose an interview model that borrows more from forensic models, used by psychologists and investigative models used by journalists, than the therapeutic models often used in social work.

This aspect is the corner stone of their approach and also explains the tension that exists between what a social worker is trained to do (help their clients when having social problems), and the requirements of a screener (weed out inappropriate prospective foster/adoptive parents).

How to Screen Adoptive and Foster Parents makes a compelling argument in favor of an investigative approach, though at times, it lacks examples showing what goes wrong when screeners approach their task with a therapeutic mindset.

This lack of practical examples is the biggest weakness of the book. While the authors do explain very well the reasons why their approach can be successful, they fail to document the consequences of an improper approach to screening.

A more compelling argument for the necessity of their approach could have been made if the book had spent more time analyzing the down sides of current screening practices.

The largest part of the book is devoted to various interview techniques. Complete questionnaires are provided, which, step-by-step, guide the social worker through the screening process. For each question an analysis is given of possible answers and guidelines are given for follow-up questions. This part part of the book is detailed and practical in nature and shows a wealth of experience as it relates to the screening of prospective foster/adoptive parents.

Even for an outsider, without experience in social work, the advice given is easily understandable. This is also one of the dangers of the book. It can easily be used by ill intended prospective foster/adoptive parents to prepare themselves for screening interviews.

Though the book addresses various ways to detect disingenuous answers, it does not provide tips on how to detect overly prepared prospective foster/adoptive parents.

The book also runs a bit out of gas towards the end and finishes quite abruptly, without really wrapping up the arguments made.

With these few exceptions, How to Screen Adoptive and Foster Parents, is very complete resource. The authors tackle most of the dubious motivations people can have to become adoptive/foster parents, and they even dedicate an entire chapter to the screening for child predators. The book is also very complete in its unraveling of improper family dynamics, which again shows the practical experience of the authors.

How to Screen Adoptive and Foster Parents
is not a flawless book, but it certainly is an important book. One can see how this book, if used as a mandatory study material for all screeners, can help create safer foster/adoptive homes and prevent fewer adoption disruptions for the fostered/adopted child.

Dickerson, Allen and Pollack deserve credit for the wealth of practical knowledge they provide and praise should be given for the simple terms in which they translate their experience. The advocated approach to screening makes perfect sense and seems to cover all bases, even if it could use a more thorough introduction.

We recommend this book to all social workers, active in the field of child placement, and we hope this approach becomes standard practice for all screeners.