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Good-will trip will also be a reunion

Romania - A Tualatin teen will meet her birth mother during a trip to

visit an orphanage

Wednesday, December 26, 2007

DEE ANNE FINKEN Special to The Oregonian

TUALATIN, OR -- A trip for a Tualatin family today to deliver gifts

and a message of hope to an orphanage in Eastern Europe is more than a

holiday good-will venture.

It's also a homecoming.

In Romania, a nation still struggling to extract itself from the

systematic abandonment of a generation and children and infants,

16-year-old Kira Shearer will meet the Romanian woman who agreed to

place her for adoption when she was 2 weeks old.

Understandably, the Tualatin teen has mixed feelings about the reunion.

"I'm anxious in a bad way -- and in a good way," Kira, a quiet junior

at Horizon Christian School in Tualatin, confided recently, alongside

her parents, Tom and Cherie Shearer, and her 12-year-old sister, Tia,

in the comfort of their home.

Sitting next to a Christmas tree laden with ornaments and surrounded

by a flood of gifts, Kira conceded it might be difficult in just one

week to get to know the woman who bore her but gave her to others to

raise. "When I was younger, I'd wonder why'd she give me up."

Now, the teen said she is concerned that once she returns to Oregon

after meeting her birth mother, the pain of missing her might be too

great.

"We didn't know for sure if she was even still alive until just

recently," Kira said.

The significance of her adoption by an American family is not lost on

the teen. A few weeks ago, Kira toured a Tigard exhibit by the

humanitarian group Medical Teams International displaying the plight

of homeless and abandoned people around the world, including orphans

in Romania.

"It kind of scared me," Kira said. "It was really nasty. There was

overcrowding and they just let the kids cry. There were no cots and it

was freezing, and the children were sleeping on urine-soaked

mattresses."

Conditions for children in Romania have improved since news reports in

the early 1990s unveiled the horror of life under Nicolae Ceausescu,

the dictator who was overthrown at Christmas in 1989. In an attempt to

build his nation, Ceausescu had outlawed birth control and abortion

and paid mothers for having babies. The ideal was five children, which

resulted in a mother receiving additional money from the government.

Kira was baby No. 4 for Maricica Edu.

But the poverty gripping the nation made it impossible for Edu and

thousands of other mothers to care for their babies. Hundreds of

thousands of infants and children who were not adopted ended up in

orphanages ill-equipped to provide for the avalanche of youngsters.

Conditions in many institutions were so horrid they were likened to

Nazi concentration camps.

Despite improvements in recent years, humanitarian and church groups

such as Heart To Heart International Ministries that send missionaries

and others to work in Romania's orphanages report significant work is

yet to be done.

"We have a cycle of abandonment that continues in Romania," said Anna

Nielsen, Heart To Heart spokeswoman.

It was through Heart To Heart that the Shearers tracked down Kira's

birth mother. Natalie Richards, who, along with Cherie Shearer teaches

at Horizon, one day happened to mention her volunteer work with the

California-based nonprofit and an upcoming missionary trip she had

planned to Romania in late December.

Before long, the Shearers had signed on for the trip, which will cost

them about $7,000. Heart To Heart helped track down Kira's birth

mother.

Edu lives in the tiny village of Focsani north of Bucharest in a

region so rural that electricity is a luxury. With no roads, the

Shearers will have to hike the last mile to reach her one-room house.

In addition to the reunion, Cherie Shearer said the trip will "bring

Christmas to the orphans," children who otherwise might not have any

holiday.

"We'll have parties and deliver boxes filled with gifts. Many of the

children don't have anything."

Among the gifts for each of the 120 children in the orphanage the

Shearers will visit will be a new pair of shoes.

When fellow classmates at Horizon learned about the orphanage Kira and

Tia will visit, the youngsters held fundraisers and collected more

than $3,300.

"The students' hearts," said Principal Pam Pries, "were really touched."

Dee Anne Finken: dfinken@comcast.net

2007 Dec 26