Everyone has went through the 'closed mouth' syndrome. We have at some point wanted to tell or ask someone for something but out of fear of their reactions, we kept our mouths closed.
I remember as a young girl I was always afraid to speak. I was adopted by a physically abusive woman who believed that kids were to be seen not heard. I became an introvert because of the way she raised me. I kept to myself because I didn't really know how to speak for myself. This led to me being bullied and alienated from other kids my age, they thought I was weird.
This also led to me not telling someone when I was molested by a foster mother's son (after my adoption broke due to the child abuse) at 14 years old. I was scared to tell her because I didn't know if she'd believe me. If she kicked me out, I didn't know where they would move me. She always said I was fast and promiscuous so for that reason, I kept my mouth shut.
I watched the Green's event on whistleblowers online. And saw how you tried to keep the question about my situation away from Julian Assange and Sarah Harrison. And how you prevented Ana Maria Gomes from being given the floor.
I also heard you were reluctant, very very reluctant, to accept my book. And I wonder why?
Does it has to do with the fact that your former colleague MEP Cohn-Bendit lend a listening ear to the "adoption lobby"? I can hardly imagine... By the way, it is said in the below mail that M. Cohn-Bendit knows me. Well, I certainly don't know him. So he might know "about" me, but he does not know me in person.
Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that I admire your work. And somehow still had my hopes on you as a last option in case all would go wrong. I thought your lack of reply in 2009 was just because you were very busy, and still hope that was the case.
Back in 2009, this website leaked an internal proposal of the Joint Council on International Children's Services (JCICS), detailing their dismal financial status and the credibility problems the organization was facing.
JCICS wasn't pleased we leaked their proposal and contacted us with a request for removal, which we understandably didn't honor. Instead we wrote a more thorough analysis of said document.
The financial situation JCICS faced back in 2009 was apparently not as dire as it seemed at the time, since the organization stayed afloat for at least another six years.
The credibility issue JCICS faced, they never overcame. Even though the organization was well aware how they were perceived and how true that perception was, they couldn't change who they were.
In a moment of clarity, the authors of the proposal wrote:
Between 1869 and the late 1930s, more than 100,000 children were sent to Canada from Great Britain by philanthropic organizations like Dr. Barnardo’s.
Some were orphans, some were poor — many came from families who saw no other option. With overcrowding, disease and homelessness rampant in Industrial Revolution-era England, the idea was to send the children to the expansive land of Canada, where they could help on farms and have a chance at a good life.
Transferring child custody, without government authority involvement - child trade or child trafficking?
Published on Nov 12, 2014
He was only five years old when his adoptive parents decided they weren't going to keep him any more. They gave him away to a complete stranger who they found on the internet. Moses Gilbert was born in Liberia, adopted into Canada and then dropped off in Texas when the adoption didn't work out. All of this without any oversight or involvement from authorities. This unregulated practice is euphemistically called “rehoming” by communities that use online message-boards to trade children. B.C. Children's Advocate Mary Ellen Turpel-Lafond explains that people who "rehome" after adoption are abusing a system that was never designed with this use in mind.
Part II of this series explores the way American adoptive parents use underground internet adoption websites, avoiding any government official/ child protective service involvement and the need to pay child support for the adoptees they wish to rehome.
Published on Mar 15, 2014
This report shows that when you adopt internationally and end up not liking the kid you can just "rehome" them like you would a pet on Craigslist. This Chinese girl was crippled, by Polio. When she got, handed over to her new "rehomed" family she was mistreated and they would punished her by taking away her leg brace that she used for walking.
Two girls, out of six children adopted by Travis and Stacy Yates, were sexually abused by their adoptive father. The abuser confessed to the abuse in 2014, but was allowed to live with his wife and four of the adopted children, until being sentenced to 37 years in prison a year later.
We, Babel Press, are a French TV production company working on a TV documentary on disrupted adoptions and re-homing and we are looking for families willing to share their story.
Babel Press has several bureaus around the world, including Paris, Delhi and Miami, where we are based. Our work has received several awards and recognitions, such as the Albert Londres Prize, considered the French equivalent of the Pulitzer Prize. We work regularly with all major French television stations for documentaries. You can visit our website at: http://www.babelpresstv.com.
The documentary, which will be aired on public service in France, like PBS in the U.S., will tackle the issue of private re-homing and failed adoptions through: personal stories; community service; welfare organisations; and legislative bids to fix the situation. We are in contact with several lawmakers and organisations since several months. We are now looking for families and children that have experienced a bad or disrupted adoption or re-homing in any way and who are willing to be interviewed on camera to share their story.
It's it wrong to be hurt years later. Am I just being extra. I need closure. I found the paper on her death but still no pictures or a grave. It's like she just disappeared with no evidence. Happy mother's day to you all. Hold on tight and don't let go
Polish researcher explores the untold story of Jewish children who were adopted by Christian parents during World War II and experienced a difficult identity crisis at the end of the war, some refusing to return to their families or to Judaism.
About a million Jewish children lived in Poland before World War II. Only few of them survived the Holocaust, mostly after being "adopted" by non-Jewish parents. But for an unclear reason, the story of these "miracle children" was pushed aside and neglected by historians for many decades.
Earlier this month, the US Department of State, published its annual report on inter-country adoption, and for the 10th year in succession, the number of children adopted from abroad dropped.
Much has been written in the last decade, about this decrease in inter-country adoption, and while it is a real phenomenon that can be observed in all receiving countries, there is more to the story than just a decline within the last decade.
When American mainstream media reports news about the decline in inter-country adoption, they usually use 2004 as a starting point, when the US alone received 22,972 children from abroad.
Any recent figure will pale in comparison to this figure. For instance, the 6,441 children adopted from abroad in 2014 is less than one third of the number reached in 2004.
14-year-old boy adopted by Kimberly Durlin was sexually abused by his adoptive mother. Durlin expressed that the sexual abuse started in an attempt to bond with her adopted son. According to news reports, when the detective contacted the boy's adopted father for a follow-up interview, the man allegedly told the officer that he didn't want to hear any more details about the case and said he planned on giving up his parental rights.
January 3, 2014 marked the departure of Mary Landrieu from the national political scene and with that, her 18 year tenure as leader of the adoption lobby within congress.
During her years in the Senate, the Congressional Coalition on Adoption (CCA) grew out from a caucus that promoted adoption from foster care, to a full fledged lobbying arm of the adoption industry.
Most notable in that regard, was the foundation of the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute (CCAI), in 2001. This tax exempt, charitable organization, went far beyond the original intent of the adoption caucus, and became a front office for the adoption industry and religious organizations,.
Del. C.T. Wilson stepped to the podium of a state Senate committee during a routine hearing, about to confess a secret..
He took a deep breath. "I don't really, really want to be here," he said.
He had weighed what might come of revealing his darkest truth to fellow lawmakers. At 43, he'd spent a lifetime building barriers of protection – 231 pounds of hulking muscle, hardly any close friends, training as a combat soldier, earning a law degree while working nights as a bouncer.
Wearing a gray suit, years removed from his daily nightmare, Wilson told the senators that as a child, his adoptive father repeatedly beat and then raped him.
"I can't describe to you the pain of being beaten, sodomized and molested for years," he said. Between ages 9 and 15, "I went from a difficult life to a downright hell."
The abuse at the hands of a man who died in 1999, Wilson said, made him an angry "monster" inside.