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hits all the RAD cult experts... sad... at least he isn't in an American run RTC and he is out of Ranch for Kids

One boy’s un-adoption, two families who love him and a woman’s mission to bring ‘rehoming’ out of the shadows

By Lisa Belkin
December 10, 2014 7:01 AM

Yahoo News

The phone rings at the ranch house in the Horse Prairie valley of Montana, and Cyndi Peck puts on her headset and settles in for what is always a long conversation. Sitting in her tiny home office, surrounded by milk crates full of files on the floor and a map of U.S. time zones on the wall, she folds her hands as if in prayer and listens as yet another adoptive mother explains why she wants to return another adopted child.

Boy adopted by Christine Evelyn Baughman

11-year-old boy, adopted from Ukraine in 2013, by Christine Evelyn Baughman, was allegedly physically abused by his adoptive mother.
Date:
Placement type: Adoption
Type of abuse: Non-lethal physical abuse
Abuser: Adoptive mother

Location

Ringgold, Georgia
United States
See map: Google Maps

Parallel Dialogues- Based On Two Separate Life Stories

Parallel Dialogues-
Based On Two Separate Life
Stories
Arun Dohle & anonymous Indian Birthmother

I want my baby back!! But nineteen years later she is not the baby I had to give up. Will I ever
have the joy of knowing her? Will the pain of being separated all these years go away? Does she
long to see me?

I want my mother back! After 34 years she is still my first mother. Will I ever be reunited with
her? To be reunited is something I desire very deeply. Will seeing her ease the pain of being
separated for so long? Maybe she doesn´t want to see me?

In 1973 my parents went on their honeymoon. Their honeymoon was an exchange trip to India, and they
were guests of a family. Since they desired to have a child and it was clear at that time that it
was difficult for them to have biological children, the family suggested that they adopt a child
from India. So my adoptive parents adopted me with the help of this family, from a well known Pune
orphanage which also runs a women’s shelter.

In 2002, I discovered that I was actually an unwanted child belonging to the extended family of my

Victoria adoption family alleges ministry hid extent of abuse

CBC News
November 20, 2014

A Victoria family says the Ministry of Children and Family Development failed to support them as adoptive parents, and did not disclose their adopted son's history as a victim of sexual abuse.

The CBC is abiding by a court-ordered publication ban protecting the identity of the couples' son.

'We had already fallen in love with him and spent a year getting to know him'- Victoria mother of adopted son

The parents described their son's tragic early life in an interview with the CBC's Jo Ann Roberts, where they said their son was born in Romania, and adopted by Canadian parents, who moved the boy to Ottawa and then Victoria. But the parents say the first set of adoptive parents chose to abandon the boy in Libya, before adopting another child.

They say when he was discovered he was sent back to Victoria and held in the care of the ministry, and after several years and eight foster homes he was adopted by his now parents at the age of 11.
History of abuse discovered

Rare and ... Rare

"Have you ever heard of people saying, “this feels like it’s happening to someone else” or something to that effect? Now I can completely relate to that. I kind of feel like. Well, I don’t know exactly how to quantify it. It’s a new sensation.  Extremely weird, but not entirely unpleasant." - my newly-discovered maternal half-sister

"I have to admit, this is incredibly awkward, but I am happy to get to know you." - my newly-discovered paternal half-sister

"That is a picture of your grandmother.  If you want to know what she looked like when she was younger, look in the mirror.  You look just like her." - a great-uncle

"Who the Hell are you, where did  you come from, and what's this nonsense about a Promised Land?" - the Canaanites

Adoption by Gentle Care recipient of Demons of Adoption Award

For eighth year in a rows, Pound Pup Legacy has asked its readers to choose the worst person or organization in Adoptionland as the
recipient of the Demons of Adoption Award. Today we announce this year's recipient.

We started the Demons of Adoption Awards, back in 2007, as a parody of the Congressional Angel in Adoption Award , annually awarded by the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute (CCAI). Although humorous in form, it was serious in intent.

At the time, little attention was given to serious issues like abuse in adoptive families, child trafficking, coerced relinquishment and re-homing., while at the same time, Members of Congress were busy praising adoption attorney's and executive directors of adoption agencies, by honoring them a Congressional award.

Something was very wrong with this picture. Abuse in adoptive families and re-homing often are the result of bad screening practices and insufficient preparation of prospective adopters, if not the result of withholding information about the conditions of the child, important to make a proper decision whether to go forward with an adoption. Coerced relinquishment often is the result of having no well-defined protocols to guide the adoption process. Child trafficking is often the result of working with unreliable partners in sending countries and the profit motif that can easily become the driving factor behind the adoption process.

Members of Congress should worry about these issues and provide regulation that curtail what is wrong in Adoptionland. Unfortunately they much rather look the other way and sail on the feel-good sentiments that surround adoption.

The Angels in Adoption Award gala is mostly an adoption agency's love fest, organized with congressional allure It openly shows the intimate embrace of special interest groups and federal government, more so than in any other field of business.

Congress is often said to be ruled by special interests, but nowhere is the intimate embrace of politics and business so blatant as in the field of adoption.

There are no congressional awards for members of the petrochemical or financial industry, nor is there a defense contractor of the year award. When it comes to these branches of business, members of congress at least presume to maintain a certain distance.

Adoption is an entirely different matter. Members of Congress don't view it as a business, after all, as defined by law, no children are being sold. And even if viewed as a business, it dwarfs in comparison to Wall Street, the oil industry, insurance, and the pharmaceutical industry.

For members of congress the political value of adoption is not economical, but sentimental. Members of congress like to present themselves in favor of adoption, because it superficially shows a virtuous side, something as much needed to get elected as having well filled campaign coffers.

For members of the adoption industry, adoption certainly has economic value. Their livelihood depends on it. Of course the industry likes to present itself as virtuous and charitable, but at the end of the day salaries need to be paid and the cost of doing business needs to be recouped.

The Angels of Adoption Awards shamelessly shows the exchange of sentimental political capital for the economic and religious interests of the adoption industry. Members of Congress get the opportunity to demonstrate their virtuous side, and the industry gets Congress's seal of approval,and  minimal federal oversight.

This cynical trade of feel good sentiments for economic and religious interests made us start the Demons of Adoption Awards, seven years ago.

As a parody of the Angels of Adoption Awards it only highlights the worst. Just like no agency or attorney is as angelical as Members of Congress want us to believe, neither are the demons of adoption exceptionally evil. For every nominee there are several others equally guilty of unethical practices.

The Demons of Adoption Awards shine a light on the darkest corners of Adoptionland, but they don't tell us much about the overall darkness of the adoption industry.

Business methods, used by the worst agencies of our time, are the same as those used by "demons of adoption" a century ago. Coerced relinquishment, fraudulent paperwork, the use of jurisdictional mazes, illegal payments, all of that is not a recent invention; it has been part and parcel of the adoption business since its inception.

This year's recipient of the Demons of Adoption Award is a good example of being among the worst in an industry that thrives on bad practices.

Founded, in 1978 by attorney James S. Albers, Adoption by Gentle Care has been in the spotlight before. Already in 2011, the agency was nominated for a Demons of Adoption Award for their handling of the case of Benjamin Wyrembek.

In that case Adoption by Gentle Care placed a boy with an Indiana couple, in November 2007, knowing that the paternity of the child was not established. Benjamin Wyrembek, the father of the child contested the adoption and after a long court battle, the adoption was dismissed.

As a result, the child was officially in custody of Adoption by Gentle Care, which was ordered to show the child to his father on February 8, 2010. The agency failed to comply with the court order and through it's executive director John Cameron was held in contempt on July 2, 2010.

The Indiana couple appealed all the way up to the US Supreme Court, but eventually October 30, 2010, the boy was handed over to his father.

Adoption by Gentle Care quickly dismissed executive director John Cameron, who was replaced by Trina Saunders. This change of leadership however didn't change the way Adoption by Gentle Care operated.

In March 2014, Adoption by Gentle Care was involved in the placement of Camden, the son of Carri Stearns. Carri Stearns found herself in a crisis situation after getting pregnant as the result of a one-night-stand. Her partner wasn't exactly pleased and told her to choose between the baby and their life together.

Carri Stearns contacted Adoption by Gentle Care days before she was due, to discuss the placement of the child. Adoption by Gentle Care was very eager to assist in the placement and their counseling was geared to only one option, to make sure the child was being placed for adoption.

In the process Adoption by Gentle Care ignored all red flags. The mother was financially capable of raising the child, she herself wanted the child, and she had proven to be a good mother for her other children.

When the issue of paternity came up, the agency coached Carri Stearns to list the father as "unknown" on the birth certificate, even though the father was known.

The case worker, having learned her lesson from the case of Dusten Brown (baby Veronica) asked if Carri had any Native American blood. When she answered truthfully that she did, the case worker responds: “Carri, you can’t say that. If we name Native American blood, then this adoption won’t happen. He’ll go to foster care.”

Apparently the fear of the child going into foster care was enough for Carri Stearns to lie, something Adoption by Gentle Care apparently found entirely acceptable.

Three days after the initial intake and only counseling session, Carri gave birth to her son Camden by means of a c-section. Four days later, she signed off on the adoption.

During the relinquishment she had to testify that she was of "sound mind and body". In such testimony one must state that they are not under any mind altering substances and are making this decision of their own free will, independently of any coercion of duress. At the time Carri was still under doctor’s prescription for Vicodin and Dilaudid, but was advised by Adoption by Gentle care worker to say "no" to the question whether she was using any medication.

Three days after the relinquishment, reality what has transpired set in and Carri came to the conclusion she had made a terrible mistake.

Adoption by Gentle Care refused to revoke the consent and pushed through with the placement of Camden. However, the family chosen to adopt the boy, returned him to the agency and he has been in foster care ever since.

Adoption by Gentle Care, with this case proved to be anything but gentle, and it seems all they cared about is the quick placement of children. They didn't seem to care about proper procedures, proper counseling and it wasn't even beyond them to instruct someone to lie.

We believe our readers made an excellent choice by declaring Adoption by Gentle Care this year's Demon of Adoption, and with sadness realize next year we will most likely have another recipient just as deserving.

Joint Council Update - Visit by Dutch and Belgian Authorities

• From: "Anna Rough"
• To: ,
• Subject: [hague-l] Joint Council Update - Visit by Dutch and Belgian Authorities
• Date: Wed, 10 Sep 2008 14:25:37 -0500
• Importance: high
• Priority: Urgent
________________________________________

Joint Council Update

Program International Relations Initiative
Date September 10, 2008
Regarding Visit by Dutch and Belgian Authorities

On Monday, September 8, 2008, a Joint Council delegation met with representatives of the Dutch and Belgian Central Authorities and the U.S. Department of State. During the meeting, held at the Adoption Center of Washington, information was exchanged on the United States’ policy and procedural implementation of the Hague Convention and the functionality of current procedures. Discussions also centered on finding families for American children (including those in foster care) with Dutch and Belgian families.

Outgoing Cases

Switzerland's shame: The children used as cheap farm labour

By Kavita Puri / BBC

Thousands of people in Switzerland who were forced into child labour are demanding compensation for their stolen childhoods. Since the 1850s hundreds of thousands of Swiss children were taken from their parents and sent to farms to work - a practice that continued well into the 20th Century.

David Gogniat heard a loud knock on the door. There were two policemen.

"I heard them shouting and realised something was wrong. I looked out and saw that my mother had pushed the policemen down the stairs," he says.

"She then came back in and slammed the door. The next day three policemen came. One held my mother and the other took me with them."

At the age of eight, he was in effect kidnapped and taken away to a farm. To this day he has no idea why.

For the first years of his life, he and his older brother and sisters lived alone with their mother. They were poor, but his childhood was happy until one day in 1946, when he came home from school to find his siblings had disappeared.

Boy adopted by Timothy and Karen Sue Tolin



A 19-year-old boy, one of 13 children adopted by Timothy and Karen Sue Tolin, was found locked in a caged bed covered in urine and feces.

Court records indicate that the Department of Human Services has a history of involvement with the Tolin family.

In 2010, the Huron County Intermediate School District and Ubly Community Schools petitioned Huron County Circuit Court Family Division regarding a charge the Tolins educationally abused and neglected seven minor children. A hearing was canceled after the Home School Legal Defense Association got involved.

One of the children adopted by the Tolins was placed with Tom and Debra Schmitz.

Karen Sue Tolin on her now defunct website admits to being a long time sufferer of Anxiety and Depression.

Date: 2014-10-20
Placement type: Adoption
Type of abuse: Non-lethal neglect
Abuser: Adoptive father, Adoptive mother
Disabilities: yes
Home schooling: yes

Location

Ruth, Michigan
United States
See map: Google Maps

Girl adopted by couple from Sedgwick County, Kansas

A 14-year-old girl adopted by a couple from Sedgwick County, Kansas, was tortured by her adoptive parents, locked in the basement and withheld food.

Kansas Department for Children and Families had received concerns about the girl’s treatment nine time in a little more than five years, but found there was not “clear and convincing” evidence that abuse had occurred.
Date: 2014-03-28
Placement type: Adoption
Type of abuse: Non-lethal physical abuse, Non-lethal neglect, Non-lethal deprivation
Abuser: Adoptive father, Adoptive mother

Location

Sedgwick County, Kansas
United States
See map: Google Maps

Girl adopted by Richard and Rana Cooper

16-year-old girl adopted by Richard and Rana Cooper was systematically abused by her adoptive mother. Rana Cooper is accused of forcing the girl to eat used cat litter, attempting to gouge the girl’s eyes out and trying to sew her mouth shut. Allegedly she also forced the girl to run her finger along the rim of the toilet and eat what was on her finger.
Date: 2014-10-09
Placement type: Adoption
Type of abuse: Non-lethal physical abuse
Abuser: Adoptive mother

Location

Avella, Pennsylvania
United States
See map: Google Maps

Eighth Annual Demons of Adoption Awards

For the eighth time in succession, Pound Pup Legacy asks its readers to make a tough decision, and decide who will become this year's recipient of the annual Demons of Adoption Award.

All candidates have been nominated by readers of our website, and some were nominated more than once.

Sick and tired of watching that disgusting love-fest the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute pulled off with their annual Angel in Adoption Award TM, Pound Pup Legacy decided to raise awareness about the wrong doings in Adoptionland, and introduced the annual Demons of Adoption Award, in 2007.

Over the years many deserving candidates have received the award, although none have ever publicly acknowledged that.

Who should receive the Demons in Adoption Award 2014?
Adoption by Gentle Care
53% (453 votes)
Both Ends Burning
4% (36 votes)
Child Welfare League of America (CWLA)
1% (12 votes)
Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute (CCAI)
4% (36 votes)
Katie Jay
2% (21 votes)
Mike Nomura
2% (13 votes)
Minnesota Concerned Citizens for Life
2% (17 votes)
Trio Solutions
26% (220 votes)
Trish Maskew
5% (47 votes)
Total votes: 855

Carri Stearns case

Carri Stearns said she was emotionally distraught, and in a drug-induced state when she signed over her son, Camden, to Adoption by Gentle Care, a Columbus adoption agency.

She also claims she was in a daze when she signed, stating she was prescribed both anti-anxiety medication and Vicodin, which made her dizzy, nauseated, and "out of it."

During the drug-dazed fog, Stearns claims, a caseworker from Gentle Care "misled, manipulated and bullied her." The petition argues that "the caseworker told Stearns that if she did not sign, [Camden] would go into a foster home."
Date: 2014-03-31
Organizations involved: Adoption by Gentle Care

Location

Dublin, Ohio
United States
See map: Google Maps

Uganda’s child adoption ‘market’ brings misery and confusion

Family distraught at losing contact with son, now living 8,000 miles away in US after adopters told he was abandoned

Amy Fallon / The Guardian

Staring down at two sketchy black-and-white photos of a young boy, Nakiwala Hasifa uses the beige top she is wearing to dry her tears. The child is her son, Stuart Bukenya, a “playful” boy who loved his family, his farmer parents and 12 siblings.

But today he is a stranger to her. Living in Hattiesburg, Mississippi, 8,000 miles away, Stuart has a new family and even a new name. “Silas Hodge” is written in pencil on the photos given to Hasifa and her husband, Festo Matovu, via their lawyer. They have not seen him for five years and fear they will not do so again.

Two children adopted by Allison Fowler

Two children adopted by Allison Fowler were both physically and verbally abused by their adoptive mother.
Date: 2014-10-06
Placement type: Adoption
Type of abuse: Non-lethal physical abuse, Verbal abuse
Abuser: Adoptive mother

Location

Holly Hill, Florida
United States
See map: Google Maps

Two girls adopted by Johann and Kimery Jorg

Two girls, aged 11 and 13, adopted five years prior by  Johann and Kimery Jorg were systematically abused by their adoptive parents. Both girls were made to sleep outside using a bucket for a bathroom, and they were not allowed to wear clothes. They were forced to run barefoot in the heat for hours and beaten with a wooden paddle as punishment for supposed “lying and stealing”. The older girl’s hair was also shaved off as punishment. They were systematically deprived of food.
Date: 2014-05-30
Placement type: Adoption
Type of abuse: Non-lethal physical abuse, Non-lethal neglect, Non-lethal deprivation
Abuser: Adoptive father, Adoptive mother
Home schooling: yes
Fundamentalist faith: yes

Location

Peoria, Arizona
United States
See map: Google Maps

Two children adopted by Kate Parker

Two girls, aged 4 and 5, adopted from Ukraine by Kate Parker were medically abused by their adoptive mother. The two girls as well as one of Parker's biological children, underwent numerous medical procedures based false accounts by their adoptive mother.

Parker also sought and received donations based on made up stories.

One of the adopted girls was re-homed.
Date: 2014-04-01
Placement type: Adoption
Type of abuse: Medical abuse
Abuser: Adoptive mother
Home schooling: yes

Placement

Organizations: Reece's Rainbow

Location

Grant Pass, Oregon
United States
See map: Google Maps

Seven children adopted by Owen Miller

Seven children adopted by Owen Miller and his wife (name unknown) were allegedly routinely locked in attics and basements and outdoors, left without food for days. Moreover Owen Miller is accused of sexually abusing one of his adopted daughters.

The alleged crimes took place in Missouri, a state the Millers left when they moved to Alaska.
Date:
Placement type: Adoption
Type of abuse: Non-lethal physical abuse, Sexual abuse, Non-lethal deprivation
Abuser: Adoptive father, Adoptive mother

Location

United States

Open Secret: Cash and Coercion in China's International Adoption Program

By Brian H. Stuy, Research-China.org

Abstract

Open Secret is a documentation and analysis of seriously abusive practices in China's intercountry adoption system. The article describes three kinds of abuses: baby-buying programs at Chinese orphanages, "confiscations" of children by population control officials, and "education" programs in which orphanages falsify the ages and family situation of teenagers in order to make them paper eligible for intercountry adoption. The article questions the effectiveness of the Hague legal regimen for intercountry adoption, particularly in the context of China. A brief foreward by David Smolin places Brian Stuy's extensively-researched article about adoptions from China in a broader context.

Uganda's child adoption 'market' brings misery and confusion

Family distraught at losing contact with son, now living 8,000 miles away in US after adopters told he was abandoned

By Amy Fallon
October 6, 2014 / The Guardian http://www.theguardian.com/world/2014/oct/06/uganda-child-adoption-marke...

Staring down at two sketchy black-and-white photos of a young boy, Nakiwala Hasifa uses the beige top she is wearing to dry her tears. The child is her son, Stuart Bukenya, a “playful” boy who loved his family, his farmer parents and 12 siblings.

But today he is a stranger to her. Living in Hattiesburg, Mississippi, 8,000 miles away, Stuart has a new family and even a new name. “Silas Hodge” is written in pencil on the photos given to Hasifa and her husband, Festo Matovu, via their lawyer. They have not seen him for five years and fear they will not do so again.

Boy adopted by Mark and Ruthann Gneiser

5-year-old boy with Down syndrome, adopted by Mark and Ruthann Gneiser, was allegedly beaten by his adoptive mother so badly that he defecated in his pants. She then made the boy sit in scalding hot bath water.
Date: 2014-09-25
Placement type: Adoption
Type of abuse: Non-lethal physical abuse
Abuser: Adoptive mother
Disabilities: yes

Location

Newton, Wisconsin
United States
See map: Google Maps

Three children adopted by Charles and Suzan Sealock

A nine-year-old girl, a seven-year-old boy and a six-year-old boy adopted by Charles and Suzan Sealock were physically abused by their adoptive parents. The seven-year-old boy was being locked in his room.

The Sealocks had a child of their own who showed no sign of abuse.
Date: 2014-09-07
Placement type: Adoption
Type of abuse: Non-lethal physical abuse, Non-lethal neglect, Non-lethal deprivation
Abuser: Adoptive father, Adoptive mother
Home schooling: yes

Location

Dandridge, Tennessee
United States
See map: Google Maps

Eighth Annual Demons of Adoption Award Nominations

Now that autumn has started, the Congressional Angels in  Adoption have been awarded and National Adoption Awareness months is not far from the horizon, it is time for us to start the nominations for Pound Pup Legacy's Annual Demons of Adoption Awards.

Over the years, our readers have rightfully pointed out the wrongdoings and condemned the practices of such agencies like: Bethany Christian Services, LDS Family Services, adoption attorneys like Raymond W Godwin, such trade associations of adoption service providers like the National Council for Adoption and the Joint Council on International Children's Services, and even showed our utmost contempt for the United States Congress. All worthy recipients of the Demons of Adoption Awards.

With such an impressive line-up of villains, comes a daunting task to come up with an equally deserving candidate for 2014.

We invite our readers to nominate and decide who eventually has the dubious honor of actually receiving PPL's 2014 Demons of Adoption Award.


You, our reader, can make your voice heard. Who should receive the most critical recognition in Adoptionland? Until  October 10 the nomination process will be open. After that date PPL will post a poll where readers may vote for the nominees.

The link for nominations may be found at: http://poundpuplegacy.org/eighth_demons_of_adoption_nominations. Please make your nomination by adding a comment.

When posting, please state your nominee and a short explanation as to why this candidate is so deserving of this award.

Child-buying masquerading as adoption in the state, panel told

By Barbara Hoberock
September 25, 2014 / Tulsa World http://www.tulsaworld.com/news/capitol_report/child-buying-masquerading-...

OKLAHOMA CITY — The selling of children is masquerading as adoption in Oklahoma, a House panel was told Wednesday.

Many of the children are placed out of state, making them difficult to track, said Holly Towers, president of the Oklahoma Adoption Coalition and executive director of Lilyfield Christian Adoption and Foster Care in Edmond.

She was one of the presenters during an interim study on human trafficking by the House Public Safety Committee.

“We get calls from women who say they placed a child for adoption with an attorney,” Towers said. “The adoptive parents have paid rent, refurnished the apartment and given her a car. Now the payments have stopped.”

The women are facing eviction and want to know what they can do, Towers said.

“The answer is nothing,” she said. “These women have been set up to be homeless.”

Some fees are allowed, such as those for living and medical expenses, she said.

Irish babies adopted in US faced ‘lottery’ of heartache

by Lynne Kelleher

Irish children adopted by rich American families in the 50s and 60s have spoken of their harrowing Stateside childhoods in a new BBC documentary.

In the wake of Philomena, Martin Sixsmith — the journalist who wrote the book on which the Oscar-nominated film was based — decided to probe further into the Church’s role in an adoption trade which saw an estimated 2,000 illegitimate children taken from their mothers and sent abroad.

The BBC Two documentary, Ireland’s Lost Babies, sees Mr Sixsmith criss-crossing the US discovering evidence that prospective parents were not properly vetted by the Church.

“The more you talk to the children who were sent out to America — and there were hundreds of them — the more you realise what a lottery the whole system was,” says Mr Sixsmith.

“Some of the children had happy lives with the families they were sent to but many of them didn’t. Some of them were physically and sexually abused.”

US to soon restart limited adoptions in Vietnam, lifting ban imposed amid baby-selling claims

HANOI, Vietnam (AP) — Vietnam and the United States will soon resume limited inter-country adoptions, both nations said Friday, six years after a ban was imposed because of allegations of widespread baby-selling and children offered without the consent of their birth parents.

Under the new agreement, Americans will be able to adopt children with special needs and those over 5 years of age.

Adoptions will resume "soon" once the Vietnam government announces which U.S. -based adoption service providers are authorized to represent American parents, the U.S. Embassy said in an advisory to journalists announcing a media event to discuss inter-country adoptions.

Nguyen Van Binh, director of the adoption agency at the Ministry of Justice, said two U.S. agencies would be given licenses next week to operate in Vietnam.

Prior to the ban in 2008, Vietnam was a popular destination for Americans wanting to adopt children.

A Story

After a couple weeks of "phone tag" I got up with my mother.  She talked a bit about being at the maternity home with me, even though she couldn't remember the name.  Apparently her mother wrote either Ann Landers or Dear Abby for a recommendation as to where to send her.  I may have made the paper before I was even born.  Thanks Ann -- not!

So after she got pregnant she and my father talked about getting married.  She's Protestant and he's Catholic.  They went to see the priest, who would only marry them if I was reared Catholic.  My mother balked at that, and the wedding was off.  Thanks Roman Catholic Church -- not!

But she says my father knows about me and is a real nice guy, and offered to call him for me if I gave her his number, which I did.  That's a relief off me.  It felt good, until everything slotted into place.

Adoption disruptions a secretive, misunderstood trend

Winnipeg author goes public with his family's adoption struggles in new book

By Donna Carreiro
September 9, 2014/ CBS News http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/manitoba/adoption-disruptions-a-secretive-...

It's a dark and secretive adoption trend that parents are afraid to admit to, agencies don't like to talk about, but experts say is happening more than we know: adoption disruptions, in which desperate couples put their adopted children up for adoption … again.

"I think adoption disruptions are far more prevalent than the few cases reported," says Karen Moline, an adoption reform advocate.

"In Canada, in the U.S., across the border. Believe me, it's happening."

It's why international adoption experts are commending Winnipeg author Maurice Mierau for bravely going public with his own family's adoption struggles in his new book, Detachment: An Adoption Memoir.

"Parents don't go into this with their eyes open, and then no one wants to talk about it," Moline said. "We need to talk about it."

Mierau himself never considered adoption disruption, and his family now is thriving together. But it was a struggle.

Australia puts children at risk by ‘freeing up’ the adoption market

September 8, 2014/ The Conversation http://theconversation.com/australia-puts-children-at-risk-by-freeing-up...

The Australian government seems intent on lessening protections for children adopted overseas despite national and international evidence showing greater protection is needed.

Two important reports on inter-country adoption were released late last month: a report by UNICEF and one by the Legislation Committee of the Senate Standing Committees on Legal and Constitutional Affairs. And they couldn’t be more different.

The Hague Convention and why it matters

The Hague Convention on inter-country adoption has been regulating inter-country adoption for decades. It protects children, their families and adoptive families.

Failed adoptions traumatic

By Will Drabold
September 7, 2014 / The Columbus Dispatch http://www.dispatch.com/content/stories/local/2014/09/07/failed-adoption...

Nautica Carter knows a life of painful and repeated rejection.

She was adopted shortly after birth, but her parents gave her up when she was 6 years old.

Another adoption fell apart when she was 13.

At 17, she was adopted again, but, she said, her adoptive father beat and sexually abused her. She left home at 19. Now 24 and living in Urbana in Champaign County, she is no longer in contact with the family.

“When the adoption was going on, I wanted it,” she said. “I felt like I had finally found my ‘ forever family.’ But if I could do things over, I would’ve never wanted to be adopted.”

Throughout her childhood, Carter lived in 40 foster homes. The older she became, “the more angry, aggressive and defiant I became,” she said. “It became difficult for people to deal with me."

Between 1990 and last October, more than 34,000 children were adopted from foster care in Ohio. Most of the adoptions succeeded, but 2,368 — about 7 percent — didn’t work out.

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