Couple Looking To Adopt Takes Out Ad Space On NJ Turnpike

They've Adopted Once Before And Want To Share Their Love With Another Child

August 19, 2013 /

Restaurants, amusement parks and hospitals all use billboards to advertise. Now, one couple has marketed themselves on the New Jersey Turnpike in hopes that they will find a child.

Orna and Jay, who asked that their real names not be revealed, adopted their son Ben more than two years ago through an agency, CBS 2′s Christine Sloan reported.

“The moment I held Ben as my son I knew I felt happiness I never felt I could feel,” Orna said.

The couple spent two years navigating the adoption process when they adopted Ben. Now, the couple is ready to adopt again. They want Ben to have a brother or a sister, but the process is not as simple the second time around because many birth mothers seem to look for childless couples.

“They say ‘I can make this couple’s day, my kid’s going to get tons of attention,’” Jay said.

The Maryland couple decided that they needed a way to stand out in other states so they took out a billboard on the New Jersey Turnpike. The ad comes complete with their photo, phone number, website, and five words “Loving Couple Looking To Adopt”.

“We feel as a couple our goal is to market ourselves to as many people to let them know there’s an option for their 16-, 18-, 20-, or 25-year-old young woman who isn’t ready to be a mom,” Jay said.

Orna is a doctor and Jay is a sales executive. They haven’t gotten a call yet but they realize that they are looking for a needle in a haystack.

“What we hope to find is that one unique situation where someone picks up the phone or goes to our website and says ‘hey I can give a great gift to this couple,’” Jay explained.

If the call does come the couple plans to go through an adoption agency. Orna and Jay chose New Jersey because birth mothers only have 72 hours to change their minds, in Maryland the grace period is 28 days.



So, it's illegal for a parent to advertise the selling of an infant, but PAP-wanna-be's can start the adoption process by marketing themselves as great potential buyers parent-figures to young pregnant women who happen to live in a state where the mother's right to reconsider the adoption-option is limited to a mere 72 hrs.  All of this marketing/advertising  can take place without the use, guidance, and approval of a licensed Adoption Agency.... (you know, that third party partner that is supposed to ensure the adoption is legal, and the PAPs pass a social-worker's Home-Study )

Nice rules in Adoptionland.  If this story doesn't highlight the media's outrageous always-forgiving favoritism given to PAPs, in-want-of-an-infant, I don't know what does.

Personally, I find this method to procure a child rather offensive.  It should be against the law in all 50 states.

As an abused/neglected adult adoptee, I think desperate circumventing PAPs like this ought to be put in long-term therapy, and banned from any form of  adoption for at least a few years, or  until they can prove they are adopting a child-in-need for reasons that go beyond their own selfish objectives and social bias.  Rather than glorifying PAPs who go to these lengths to obtain a child, they ought to be shamed, just as a bio-parent would be if that parent tried to market her own child -- only to complete strangers who live far away, look very nice and seem to have a lot of money.


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