A tale of two dads.... why birth certificates make me laugh!
I think the world has finally gone mad in terms of crazy-ass lawsuits and the sad joke birth certificates have become for the adopted person. According to a recent article written by the Associated Press, a federal judge has allowed a same-sex male couple to have both their names listed on their adopted child's birth certificate. [I don't know if this case is funny or sad... right now I'm finding it all disturbingly amusing and darkly humorous.]
According to the article, this two-dad fact will help give the adopted child a secure sense of identity.... not to mention health benefits from the partner's employer. In fact, the bread-winner of the young family, (let's call him "dad # 2") states:
"As an adopted child myself, I understand the need a child has to feel like he or she belongs," Smith wrote. "I remember as a child wanting to see my own birth certificate and to see my parents listed because it gave me a sense of belonging, a sense of identity and a sense of dignity."
Adar also said the family often travels, and — because J. is black and they are white — an airline worker once stopped them, thinking that they were kidnapping the child. "Every time we fly we fear this could happen again," he wrote.
J. was born about eight weeks prematurely in Shreveport, in late 2005. He spent his first month in the hospital, and weighed 5 pounds when his mother gave him to Adar and Smith that December, according to Adar's statement.
Their adoption was made final on April 27, 2006, their lawsuit states. [From: "Judge: 2 adoptive dads belong on birth certificate", Janet McConnaughey", Associated Press, Dec 27, 2008, http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/12/27/AR2008122700711.html ]
Sorry, as an adoptee with tons of adoption issues, I'm not buying the idea that having two-same sex parents listed on an adopted child's birth certificate would answer the age-old question: who are my (real) parents? In fact, when it came time for me to search for my original BC, I learned it was altered so the only names on it would be the names of my AP's. So much for finding my true identity and any other family members that may have been created by my original mother and father.
Why are judges allowing AP's to alter a child's BC in the first place? Does that really help an adopted child keep a sense of family identity... or is the adopted child not supposed to not know the names/identities of his biologic mother and father?