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Spare the belabored apologies; it's time to get to work

Earlier this month a missing child inquiry case made headlines, stirring very few headlines.

about  Austin and Edward Bryant,

Joint Council on International Children's services on the wrong side of history again

Last week the Children and Youth Affairs Office of the Ethiopian Ministry of Women's Affairs (MOWA) announced their intent to bring down the number of children placed for intercountry adoptions by 90%, starting March 10, 2011. This decision is not only predictable, it was long overdue.

Since the year 2000, American adoptions from Ethiopia have seen a more than 26 fold increase:

Withdrawal in a relationship

For those of us who feel as though we're addicted to (or can't control) bad patterns and behaviors in our lives, the term 'withdrawal' carries a dread that goes well beyond the physical discomforts that go with ending an addiction.

When a child is treated like an unwanted animal, and no one seems to care - v2

Not too long ago, Oprah Winfrey spent time revisiting a young woman who, as a child, was made to live in a dog cage.

Time-out for the Home Study

Not too long ago, I posted a couple comments to a couple of articles that featured the story of an abused adoptee and the sexually abusive adoptive parent.  Within those comments, I outlined some of the basic requirements needed to foster/adopt in America.

[See:  Let's Review and Let's Review (part 2) ]

POV from the pedophile's love-interest, not the reporter

The story of a NJ foster-father, (now deceased), is making headlines in the US this weekend as memoirs of Margaux  Fragaso ("Tiger,Tiger") are making the news this weekend.  [After receiving her Ph.D. in 2009, Fragaso was able to sell the piece that became her dissertation, and already translation rights have been sold to publishers in Italy, France, The Netherlands, and China. ]

International adoption - as easy and as American as apple pie?!?

Found on a blog, a proud friend wanted to announce her friend (who runs a non-profit adoption agency in Something's rotten in the State of Pennsylvania) is opening a new adoption program.  I guess in her excitement, the blogging friend wanted to include the message written by the Adoptive Mother jump-starting two new programs for her private business entity.

Where does the support money go?

In Adoptionland, there is this magical-thinking theory that suggests there is no profit making in adoption.  Fortunately, many PPL followers know much much better than to believe this adoption-myth.

For a while I have known about the financial incentive/reward given to the person/group that can not only meet, but exceed, a given adoption target. 

When a child is treated like a dog, and no one seems to care

The other night, I learned Oprah Winfrey took the time to talk to a girl made to live in a dog cage.

At the age seven, a little girl named Chelsea was rescued in the town of Brillion, Wisconsin. She had been living for all of her life kept in a dog cage in her parents' basement while her brothers were also abused upstairs. Oprah Winfrey featured Chelsea's story on a show called "Tortured Children" back in April of 2000. Now 21, Chelsea appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show Tuesday to let her and the audience know how she is doing.

Oprah Winfrey talks to Chelsea, girl made to live in dog cage, February 22, 2011 ]

Where will adoptable American children go? (Amici dei Bambini wants to know.)

Good news for all concerned adopting Americans, looking to help less fortunate foreigners.... Amici dei Bambini (Italy) is going to help a growing number of very desperate people who want to be parents, and assist 'neglected and abandoned' children left to languish in horrific in-care conditions. 

For those not familiar with Italy's version of  "Friends of children", (not to be mistaken with the Seymour Kurtz adoption agency with a similar name), AiBi, established in 1986, is the initiative of a group of adoptive parents who saw the value and merits of adoption, as only one can when creating a not-for-profit service entity, specializing in adoption-services. 

Anxiety, insomnia, and other SUPER FUN mental disorders

Once in a while (not often) I like to have a piece within the Adult Aftermath group made public, so more people can read topic-matters posted/discussed.

This is one such piece.

Family Planning: When is a legal right morally wrong?

After I posted my Adoption Myths, and Realities piece, I had contact with an adoptee working on her own film-project, 'Imaginary Mothers', (a project that is not yet completed), and I was pleased to see more and more adoptees born in other countries are doing what they can for the mothers left-behind in a foreign land.  [One does not have to belong to a larger formal organization like United Adoptees International, to mak

US Department of State releases inter-country adoption report 2010

Last week the US Department of State released its annual report on inter-country adoption for fiscal year 2010.

The trend of declining numbers of inter-country adoption continued even when the 1090 children from Haiti for whom a Special Humanitarian Parole was granted are included in the statistics. In 2010, 12,149 children were adopted from abroad (11,059 excluding the children from Haiti who entered the country under the Special Humanitarian Parole). In 2009 the total number of inter-country adoptions in 2009 was 12,756, while the US at its peak, imported 22,972 children in 2004.

The decline of inter-country adoption is most notable when looking at the Russian figures. The number of adoptions has dropped under 1,000, while in 2004, still 5,862 Russian children were adopted by American citizens. This figure is unlikely to bounce back in the near future, given the ongoing problems with abuse of Russian children in American adoptive families.

Adoption Myths, and Realities

In May, 2007, Today (MSNBC) featured a story about six common adoption myths and realities. The introduction paragraph reads:

Adoption and Altruism

I've been thinking about the many ways in which adoption gets sold to the public, and one of my favorite misleading paths adoption advocates like to take is the one that teaches newcomers adoption is an altruistic decision, made by people who really care about the lives of children.

While there are various formal social studies/essays written about the stigma of Adoptive Parent and Birth Mother status, I found an excellent blurb that explained, very clearly, why adoption is altruistic from an evolutionary perspective. 

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