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God is guiding me to Somalia

Last night I was awaken by God, a prophet, an childlike angel. He spoke to me.

He wants me to lead the Mormons, the Baptists, the Jew,s the Catholics, the Lutherans,and  the Methodists to Somalia, to retrieve the starving orphans.  I usually never question this type of authority, but at first I asked, do you mean Samoa?  Do you mean Western Samoa, where their are "orphans" who have neither a mum nor a dad? He answered, no my child, Focus on Children, has "saved"  those children already from the evils of their own.

Nepal -- Corruption at Nepal Children's Organization (NCO/Bal Mandir)

Allegations of corruption at Nepal Children's Organization (NCO/Bal Mandir)

In May, the Mitrataa Foundation took over running Bal Mandir (a five year contract) despite serious reservations over the "severe corruption" at Nepal Children's Organization:

Mitrataa Foundation -- Annual Report 2010

10. Bal Mandir

How can we prevent the next 500 abuse cases?

Today we added the 500th case to our abuse case archive. This dubious honor goes to a case of sexual abuse of a ten-year-old girl adopted by Jon Paul Reid. Among the 500 cases we have archived over the past three years, this case, unfortunately, doesn't stand out as particularly exceptional. There have been many children like the Reid girl before, and since little is done to prevent these situations, we will likely have to document several similar cases in the future.

When we started collecting cases of abuse in child placement, we weren't certain about the extent of the problem. In fact the initiative for this archive was partially inspired by the desire to find out the extent of the problem.

Barbie, as advertised in Adoptionland

Not too long ago I discovered a sales-pitch found only in Adoptionland, and I openly admit, I find this pitch incredibly offensive, for reasons I will gladly explain later, if asked.  For now, I wish to re-showcase the marketing tool used by a hotel in China and the toy company, Mattel.  There is an exclusive give-away given only to adopters who choose to adopt from and stay in China.  What's the "free" give-away?  A white Barbie Doll, named,

Advertising in Adoptionland: Does a photograph tell the adoptable child's full story?

A recent press-release shares the good news about the use of photos when appealing to the hearts of prospective adopters.

The shots were "uniformly bad," Granito said.

She knew they had to be better if people were going to be drawn to adopt the children.

An era gone by ? Another perspective ...

Picture this scene:

Sitting outside in a nice street cafe, with some casual friends, small-talking about whatever.
Questions coming up, like: Jared, what have you been doing lately?

Jared admits that he´s been reading l o t s about adoption.
Gives lots of explanation as to why, and what ... Talking a bit about family matters and younger (adopted) brother's current crisis.

One of the friends knows someone who adopted internationally.

<Follows lively report on how the child's been doing.>

The not-so-despicable-parent in me.

I was watching a movie with my twins today.  Readers need to understand, when it comes to spending time with my older kids, I struggle.  Parenting/mommy-ing was much easier when my annoying, demanding heathens were newborns, or at the very least, much much younger, when their very simple basic needs, were very simple, basic, and easy. 

<longing for for the long-gone 'easy' days... because the looks on their faces told me I was/am a good decent parent> coupled with <tired, frustrated, annoyed and really stressed-out sigh>

Tribute

This is a tribute to A. Someone needs to remember her some place; here seems to be a good place to do just this.

I usually take interest in the biographies of folks of my kind, especially in the all white environment I currently live. I like to collect stories from everywhere I stay, and I usually find this more absorbing than doing what I am supposed to. Both is  kind of a research. The second  generally goes unnoticed by others. But one or two of these stories are really worth telling.

Chinese adoption statistics discrepancies 2005 - 2009

More than a century ago, Mark Twain popularized the expression "There are three kinds of lies: lies, damned lies, and statistics". In this post we'd like to focus on the most egregious of these lies, statistics.

In 2007, we started collecting inter-country adoption statistics, which we present on our various country pages. Our first source for these statistics was the website of the Hague Conference on Private International Law, which at the time, published the statistics of several countries for the years 2001-2004.

While entering this information into our database, we had to make the decision which statistics to use, those of the receiving countries, or those of the sending countries.

At the time. relatively few sending countries supplied statistics to the Hague, even fewer had their own website, presenting up-to-date statistics, so we decided to use the data provided by the receiving countries.

Adapting to Mother's Day, After Adoption

This sunny spring Sunday marks my 17th Mother's Day.
 
I had the pleasure/displeasure of experiencing more than 40 MD's in my life, thus far.  Almost all (but 15) had to be shared with "other women"...mothers who were not from my blood-line.
 
Mother's Day, in my mind, is very much like my own birthday.  I am forced to celebrate a life I don't really know.  I am forced to celebrate a role, a persona, a phantom wish/memory I never got to keep for more than a day or two.
 
In my present-situation, Mother's Day is flanked by two significant birth dates.  Three out of four of my children were born mere weeks apart.  My oldest was born late April; my youngest were born early May.  Spring tends to be a very busy season for me.
 
This weekend also happens to mark my twins 10th anniversary of life.
 
I have a confession.
 
I didn't want twins.
 

The Adoptee's Family Tree

Recently my oldest (in highschool) had to create a family-tree for a history project.

As a parent, I thought these school-craft projects were limited to the first early years.  Alas, I was wrong.

My daughter has a good sick sense of humour, but when it comes to family identity issues, she gets a bit serious and sensitive.

I tried to help her as best I could, explaining, "It's best to do only Daddy's side of the family.  You can explain your family-tree starts with me because I was adopted."

That is how she created her project....

Blackmail within the system

Can you believe that DHS/Lawyers told my daughter that if she wanted to keep her surving 4mo. old twin that she had  to sign her rights over to her firstborn. When I questioned as to why this was I was told "that's just the system". Lovely huh.

Reviewing Jedd Medefind's response to "The Evangelical Adoption Crusade"

Christianity Today published a clever response to Kathryn Joyce's article, The Evangelical Adoption Crusade, published in The Nation, last week. The author of this response, Jedd Medefind, happens to be the executive director of the Christian Alliance for Orphans, a coalition of Christian churches and child placement organizations that act like the functioning heart-muscle behind the Evangelical adoption movement.

Quick! I need a sedative the size of Texas, because Pertman's Adoption Issues are killing me!

Whhhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaattttttttt is Adam Pertman doing?

I ask this because there are a lot of serious significant adoption issues plaguing the USA.

Pound Pup Legacy