Love me just once
Strangled twisted roots
Preventing all potential,
Won’t someone give a damn?
Stop me going mental.
Preventing all potential,
Won’t someone give a damn?
Stop me going mental.
Hold me in your arms
Give me some direction,
Shattered fragile mind
Starved of all affection.
Life is just a journey
A long winding road,
Someone please protect me
From the unrelenting cold.
The sky without birds
The sea without fish,
A heart with no beat
Is all that I wish.
I ache to be loved
For someone to care,
What have I done?
To have no one there.
Was I born bad?
My mothers curse,
Tormented and empty
Could I feel any worse?
Pray give me hope
A reason to be,
Free from this pain
Happy with me
.
Love me just once
That’s all I ask,
To face the world
Discarding my mask.
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the visceral bleed
for one in need
dripping for all to watch, read,
weep or weed
beautiful
This sounds just like a poem
This sounds just like a poem i would write. i love it.
Just once?
Wouldn't you think we deserve so much more than being loved "just once"?
Now that we're bigger in size, do you believe in the chance of finding love through soul-mates?
not sure about soul mates.
not sure about soul mates. not sure there is one who exists for me. maybe other people can, but not me. i will die spouseless with my 15 adopted kids by my side.
Is that what it will take?
15 children to own from another family to feel whole and complete? As a single-parent?
kerry, i would suggest you
kerry, i would suggest you not touch that subject with me. we have gotten into this before and i wont do it again. ok? lets move on.
and the "15" was a joke of a number.
Fair is Fair
However, please respect my question, and based on our previous conversations I repeat: as an adult, would you replace adult companionship with children, instead?
children are not the same as
children are not the same as adults and can not replace them. children are children. simple as that. if i chose not to marry or have not the opportunity to marry then that is my decision.
Soul-Mates
My question earlier was not about marriage, it was about soul-mates... so do you consider children soul-mate material for an adult?
WTF Kerry! you are making no
WTF Kerry! you are making no sense. are you trying to shame me or something? and NO! CHILDREN ARE NOT SOUL MATES for adults. what is wrong with you?
QUOTE: """so do you consider
QUOTE: """so do you consider children soul-mate material for an adult?""""
seriously, what is wrong with you? that doesn't even make sense.
Read through the thread
Please tell me when and where my questions start sounding as if they don't make sense? My first comment was made here: Just once? My point is, don't you think, once we grow and mature, seeking and finding mature relationships is a better way to fulfill that void that feels like a child-like hunger so many of us have inside, still?
children are not adults
Its bad enough when an infertile woman sees her adopted child as the cure for her infertility. The possiblilty that any person would see an adopted child as a substitute for an adult companion is just as dysfunctional.
Robert Allan Hafetz Not Remembered Never Forgotten PathwaysinAdoptions.com
A moment of silence...
YES!
EXACTLY!
The question is: How many of us from the Adoption Scheme have been used as such? And how many will be continued to be used as "replacement parts" in some dyfunctioned love-sick game of broken hearts?
well, sounds to me like you
well, sounds to me like you all are in a different league than i. once again, i am the odd one out, made to look like a stupid bastard by the two of you who think i am dysfunctional because i want to adopt. so, like i said, i am staying out of this. my business is my business. end of story. thank you.
My 5 cents
Hi AloneWithPeople,
Please don't forget on this website, most people have one way or the other suffered from the consequences of adoption. So the image of you and your future 15 adopted children, doesn't strike a possitive chord. I hope you can understand that. You must have seen many of the posts we have made deal with adoption, none of them being applauding, to say the least. That makes me wonder why you choose to address that topic knowing many of us are not going to appreciate the image you sketch. What is it that appeals you so much in adoption, you envision being surrounded by such a large number of adopted children. I don't understand that. Why wouldn't you want to raise children of your own?
Niles, if you read above,
Niles, if you read above, the number 15 was an overexagerated number (my family always jokes with me about me eventually having that many kids because i love them so much) adoption is not the better option at any time, but it will always happen, no matter what we do to facilitate family preservation. would u like to see those children left in an orphanage because the "world" is boycotting adoption for the sake of family preservation, of which will never every be in full effect. or would u rather see me adopt that child and give her/him the best life i can?
"Why wouldn't you want to raise children of your own?" i am not going to answer that question, it is too long of a response. sorry.
and Kerry. YOU know my history, so i don't see it relevant to ask me again, but in case you have forgotten...My mother and father were adopted and i was in foster care for a while as well. beleive me, i see how fucked up things can get thru adoption.
A Solution?
I understand the number of 15 children is an hyperbole you used and I don't want to emphasize that all that much. For now I don't see the world boycotting adoption in any way, quite the contrary. At the same time I seriously question the necessity of adoption in many cases. Where I come from (The Netherlands) the number of domestic adoptions by people outside the family has dropped to around 20 cases a year, due to improvements to the child care system made. For the USA that would mean 375 cases a year, having a population 18.5 times larger. That is in stark contrast to an estimated 50,000 domestic adoption in the USA by people outside the family. Unfortunately only an estimate is possible, since no proper statistics are maintained.
Based on that estimate the adoption rate in the USA is 133 times higher than in the Netherlands, so in all earnest, I see no boycotting of adoption in any way. Quite the contrary is the fact, leading to a huge number of unnecessary adoptions, doing more wrong than good to children.
On top of that I don't believe adoption is a proper solution to a permanent placement of children. I am aware not all children can live with their natural family. Some home situations are dangerous to children, neglect and abuse taking place. In such situations when no change in the home sitiuation is possible a permanent outplacement can be a solution. In such cases I would still not see adoption as the best solution. I much rather see children living with care takers than with surrogate parents. I much rather see children keep their own name, their own heritage, their own identity than having to adjust to a family that is not really theirs from the start.
that is really great about
that is really great about the netherlands. i wish it could be that way here. i do very much think that is wonderful and was unaware that other countries would be so advanced in their proper placement of children. that really is amazing!!!! that excites me greatly.
The do try here in the foster care system to find relatives first and foremost, but i as long as i have been in the foster parenting realm i see very few children placed with their own families, at least here in Arkansas. Maybe because (i hate to say this) Arkansas and Maine have the highest rate of incest and inbreeding in the US! isn't that strange???
WOW!
and in this statement Robert
you are indirectly implying that i am seeking an adopted child as a replacement for a spouse. appreciate that sooo much. :( !!!
oh and i can't say anything about your infertile comment, except...i AM fertile as far as i know. and it doesn't make one lick of difference to me.
It's about perspective
Perhaps the bigger question should be asked, here is, "were you yourself adopted?"
Maybe those who were, know what it's like to be uprooted, and are saying, it's better to leave a child with his/her natural family, and find another way to help, if that's what's so important to do in your life. There are other ways to help families, then breaking them apart. That's all.
of course it is important
of course it is important for children to be with their natural parents, but there will always be children relenquished due to uncompliance to get off drugs, etc, on thier parents part.
A site like this will start the process
Educating the world of a lifetime of wrong-doing will not happen over-night.
Look how this ONE poem sparked one conversation, about soul-mates!
How cool is that? After all, isn't life about finding that 'special someone' who completes us, and understands where we've been and where we want to go in this world in a way that makes this world a happier place for ALL people to live?
I would think the taking of one child should be replaced with the giving of our own life-experience to those who don't know better, hoping history does not repeat itself like a beaten horse, don't you agree?
God knows, I would hate any child to live like I did! That's why I choose to seek ways to fill my inner-child through childish antics, than through a child.
I often wonder, maybe that's what happened with people like Michael Jackson, ya know? People who lose-out on their own childhoods, seek it through other children, and that's not right. We have only one childhood. So if it's lost, it has to be found some other way. I think that's why a lot of adults write children books and cartoons, like the guy who wrote Charlie Brown, they do it because they wanted to fit in, but didn't know how. Kids don't know how to express themselves, and adults are expected to have it all figured out, so what's left? Our inner voices, reaching out, through a different creative means.
kinda neat, huh?