Pound Pup Legacy

I went to my son's back-to-school night tonight.  I learned something very interesting about myself, and teachers.  I realized, the minute I am put in a group, and someone starts speaking, I hear "white noise".  I mean no disrespect... I try to listen.  I even make sure I sit in the first seat, closest to the teacher.  It makes no difference.  I tune-out; I get bored the minute I hear, "studies show" or "we follow".  As I sat through my fifth-grader's back-to-school night, I flashed backed to my own school-career, and I suddenly realized, I never liked school because I was always being told how to think and do things contrary to my own way of doing and thinking.  I knew, from a very young age my resistance stemmed from being angry... and not having control over what I could or could not do in the class-room.  I also knew my anger was about not having control over the loss of my real parents, and NO ONE seemed to care about that.

Schools - and teachers, specifically, seem to care about teaching students the skills they need to learn to become self-sufficient and organized enough to take care of themselves as an adult in this crazy disorganized, fast-paced world.  THANK GOD, because I sure as hell can't teach that!

For adoptees like myself, who got trampled upon by neglect and abandonment, we got lost by the way-side, and never learned those skills, teachers assume studies have addressed already.  How could we?  Given the (uncounted) numbers of adopted adults and children in this world, I truly believe the adoptee is a single group worth studying.  How can it NOT be???

We are the adult RAD's, adults with autism, schizophrenia, bi-polar, and a myriad of all other nut-job classifications no one person can list, as hard as we do try on the PPL topics page.

I'm floored by the complete ignorance of the effect adoption has in the classroom, and I truly feel sorry for teachers, as they are the ones forced to deal with the effects of the aftermath of neglect of disinterest continuity in care in a newborns life has become.  Adoption -- the removal of the mother, is the root cause of loss and abandonment to so much of a child's sense of displacement.  How can this be ignored, especially by the educational system?

Continuity of care, from birth on.... that's what the child needs, and the adoptee lacks.

How has that affected the world, as we know it?

Where is our collected continuity of care and concern for one another?

Consistency for a child.  Is it important?

Think about it.