Some Progress On Birth records

LEGISLATURE: SOME PROGRESS ON BIRTH RECORDS, SYRINGES

Two long-stymied measures in Trenton have suddenly broken through, with the Senate approving a bill to allow adoptees access to their birth parents’ records and the Assembly Appropriations Committee passing a $10 million needle-exchange pilot program. The birth parent record bill, S-1087, has been controversial for many years with many legislators and the New Jersey State Bar Association arguing the privacy promises given birth parents at the time of adoption should not be broken. If approved, the needle-exchange bill, A-1852, would make New Jersey the nation’s last state to institute an exchange or syringe-purchase program for drug users.

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RE: Some progress on birth records

"The birth parent record bill, S-1087, has been controversial for many years with many legislators and the New Jersey State Bar Association arguing the privacy promises given birth parents at the time of adoption should not be broken."

Folks, this is a total ruse.  It's adoption agencies and other organizations that don't want them open, people who don't want you to find things out about how they operated, not birth parents.   Personally, I had no knowledge of my son's records being sealed, never asked for or wanted  "privacy" and "confidentiality" nor was I ever promised it or informed that he would not have his OBC.  And I am in the norm, regarding this.  Oh... and his adoptive parents had my name, address & social security number.

Please read, especially the Bartucci quote:

http://www.birthparentproject.org/anonymity.html

"The argument that people have used in the past, is that there is concern
about violating the rights of natural mothers, who were promised
confidentiality. However, as the organization Birthparent Project states,
natural mothers have never requested nor been promised anonymity."  -Heather Kuhn

http://todaysnews.wordpress.com/

This Letter to the Editor to a New Jersey paper, was written by Karen Vedder, past president of the organization Concerned United Birthparents:

The truth is always the best legal policy

Home News Tribune Online 12/8/06

<!-- STORY TEXT --><!--ARTICLE BODY TEXT-->Re: "Time to shine the light on adoptees' birth records": I applaud all who worked on the legislation, S-1087/A-2557. I hope it passes into law. The truth is always best. Secrets and lies do great damage, for everyone involved.


I am a birth mother who surrendered my only daughter in 1967. I was never "hoodwinked by the illusion of protection," because no one ever promised me protection, nor did I ask for it. Protection from whom? My own daughter?

I also never intended for any "personal identities" of my daughter to be "hidden deep within the crevasses" of my family's core. Once my daughter turned 18, I patiently and naively waited for her to come knocking on my door. When she didn't come, I searched and found her.

Birth parents, too, are beginning to "stand up and fight for their rights." It has been difficult for many of us to come out of our secret lives. We did what we were told to do. "You will forget and go on with your lives, as if this never happened."

We did get on with our lives, but we did not forget our children. We yearn for acceptance into their lives and for them to become an integral part of ours.

We birth mothers were never promised anonymity, nor did we ask for it. To be used as the excuse to keep records sealed and original birth certificates unobtainable, is yet another way we are being discriminated against and dismissed. In the false pretense of protecting us we are instead being used once more, just as we were used when convinced by others we were not worthy of being mothers.

Secrets and lies must stop now. Adoptees should have access to their original birth certificates, where the truth of their birth is written. Let us also do away with amended birth certificates. My daughter has a document that states someone other than me gave birth to her, yet it is notarized as the truth. The experience of giving birth to my daughter is our truth. To have a legitimate certificate validating that experience should rightfully be ours.

When are these archaic laws going to be changed? When our legislators realize that honesty and truth are what is important and what our legal system is based on. Hopefully these changes happen soon!

Karen Vedder

CARLSBAD

http://www.thnt.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20061208/OPINION02/612080478/1080

This was the letter (of a misguided writer) she was responding to:

http://www.thnt.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20061203/OPINION02/612030502/1080

Where's Waldo?

Two long-stymied measures in Trenton have suddenly broken through, with the Senate approving a bill to allow adoptees access to their birth parents’ records and the Assembly Appropriations Committee passing a $10 million needle-exchange pilot program. The birth parent record bill, S-1087, has been controversial for many years with many legislators and the New Jersey State Bar Association arguing the privacy promises given birth parents at the time of adoption should not be broken. If approved, the needle-exchange bill, A-1852, would make New Jersey the nation’s last state to institute an exchange or syringe-purchase program for drug users.

OK... blame it on me having PMS... because that's always an Oldie but a goodie... but who's the wise-ass lumping syringes with Adoption issues?  Is that some sort of joke spoofing on the truth that there is a disproportionate percentage of Adoptees using and abusing drugs, alcohol and sex as  a means to fill a cavernous void in their lives... than oh... the NON-adopted person?

How 'bout this for a bumper-sticker:  "Stick a needle in my eye, I was adopted, and finding my family is like finding a needle in a haystack of legal documents!"

[Too long?]  ...

needles

How 'bout this for a bumper-sticker:  "Stick a needle in my eye, I was adopted, and finding my family is like finding a needle in a haystack of legal documents!"

Good one.

And I have to add, about the NJ State Bar Assoc. claim that there were "privacy promises" -- its all Bunk.

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