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Message: 5533 From: JudiKO@... Received: Do Feb 03, 2005 8:30

Subject: from judi, home from india

Dear Everyone,

Having arrived home from three weeks in India (last weekend), I am finally

catching up with emails (704) and phone messages (13, not bad!) and lots of

things on my to-do list.

My trip began in Mumbai and in Pune visiting a friend and mostly working at

Preet Mandir. My coworker Cathie Woodward, herself a mom to eight from India

including Durga from TLCH and now my assistant at Journeys of the Heart,

joined me in Goa since my director was not able to travel due to ill health. In

Goa we had two days more or less of visiting a new orphanage there

associated with Preet Mandir, but mostly we shopped for a day and ate HOT Goan food

(so good, so good) and enjoyed the beach (and all the many many tourists from

Russia who were everywhere...even signs on the beach and other places were in

Russian!).

Then the real work began for the next two weeks. Cathie and I flew to

Hyderabad where we met with some lawyers who are very familiar with the high court

and family court cases of the AP kids. In fact, we got to go to High Court,

and gazing out of the window in one of the offices I saw the largest bats

I've ever seen, fruit bats I think they are....for a while I thought that Gita

and Shalini had passed on to their next lives and had come back as these

hideous things. Then I felt bad for thinking such horrible thoughts about the

bats, who really are supposedly gentle creatures (unless you happen to run into

them with your new bouffant hairdo....)

Then we proceeded to see the kids at TLCH and visit with Sister Teresa for a

good hearty lunch, which we enjoyed. Sister is doing well considering all

she's been through, all she's been forced to go through due to Gita and

Shalini and Uma and all the other evil nasty sick examples of human beings, of

WOMEN, that exist in this world....

When we arrived, all the girls were sitting in a room in rows watching a

video. They were so polite when they greeted us, all looked absolutely

beautiful as they always do there, with their hair clean and shiny, their faces

sparkling and their eyes wide and glistening. I mean it. They were so cute...and

still, it was so very sad to look at each and every one of them and think

back to the days I'd visit and they were babies, to see Jessie who was the baby

next to Prasanna; Prasanna has been home for four years now. And to see

Helen and Anusha and Sahiti and Manusha and all of them....it's absolutely

criminal that these children are being held hostage and not allowed to have a

childhood and the love of a family. While Gita has the freedom to raise her

child (as a single parent mind you, the very people who she has tried to

emotionally crucify in the INdian courts and society), and while Shalini plays at

being a so called loving mom to her sons, they deny other children the very same

thing that their kids have. SO VERY SICK!

I know I don't have to write all of that, that you all know this and agree.

I just have to vent.

So Cathie and I took the kids' photos and I will list them all here. Please

write to me if your child is on this list and you would like to see a photo.

These are the only kids at TLCH.

Cathie was taking notes and was unsure of the spelling, as am I right now

too. Please excuse. There are 29 children, including just one boy, Pradeep,

Santoshi's brother.

Anusha (of course! She's one of 'mine')

Avanti

Ratna or Retna

Mythili

Sahitia

Nandita

Manusha

Rajeevi

Blossom

Namrita

Helen

Ragini

Lizzie

Poornima

Priyamvada

Sridevi

TWINS: Srikana and ShashiKala

Jaqueline

Vanella

Aleena

Hemabindu

Prema

Jessie

Suganya

Vismaya

Lavanya

SIBLINGS Pradeep and Santoshi

I have updates too, which Sister prepared, so if you would like a copy of

it, please let me know. I can scan it to the computer and send it as an email

attachment. Otherwise I can fax it.

I'll wait to hear more from you about whether or not you want photos and

updates. I realize that it's hard for many of you and I will abide by your

wishes. If you know of families of these kids who are not on this list, feel free

to give them my email address.

From TLCH that evening, Cathie and I flew to Vijayawada, where we were

greeted by Carol and Noel who founded Care and Share..... What a fantastic place.

I will write about that in another email as there is SO MUCH to write about

that organization and the work they do. We were able to not just visit all

their programs around that part of AP, but we visited one of the fishing

villages with which they work that was affected by the tsunami. Journeys of the

Heart has been helping that one village out, using the donations of many of

our adoptive families and adoptive families and others that read of our

efforts on the Ichild lists and other places.

OK, more later. But this is a start....

Ta ta,

Judi

2005 Feb 3