Adoption Studies and Level of Satisfaction

Recently, a study from Spain claims 92 percent of families with adopted children are satisfied with their decision.  The report reads:

The results show that, although their lives have been not been free of difficulties, these families are happy with the adoption. "Generally speaking, they are very satisfied with their decision and its implications on their family and personal lives" Sánchez-Sandoval affirms.

77.7% of families stated that their lives have been happier as a result of the adoption and 91.9% consider its repercussions to be positive. However, 37% consider family life to be more complicated in their situation.

The report goes on to say satisfaction with adoption is not a widely studied phenomenon.  This is a laughable understatement.

Here at PPL, we try to expose the dark-side of adoption so all members of the adoption triad can see where and when the care-system and adoption agencies fail children and families.  Unfortunately, I myself get feedback from APs that PPL comes-off as being angry adoptee territory... a place where many APs are afraid to tread and voice their opinions freely. This saddens me because I believe this not treading on "angry adoptee territory" is preventing a sense of unity, which is very much needed within the adoption community.   Those with complaints have a right and need to be heard, whether the adoption industry likes the feed-back, or not.

In terms of published adoption studies reported by the media, what good is it if only the "happy" and "satisfied" adoptees and adopters unite and speak-out on behalf of "the vast majority"?  How do we even know adoption satisfaction is as high as it's being reported?  I have yet to read an adoption forum where there isn't at least one private group/section where dissatisfaction can be discussed in great detail.  It would make sense to me, if angry adoptees and angry adopters showed a unified front, then the adoption industry would be forced to recognize and acknowledge the issues both angry sides present.

Based on the information and archives found on PPL, the complaints and problems pre and post adoption are many.  In most cases, it's the adoption agency itself not presenting information as it needs to be presented.

With that, I'm curious... if PPL were to create our own informal survey, how many would feel brave enough to render an honest opinion, and rate their own adoption agencies and post adoption experience?  What sort of questions are needed to get a much better look at the problems experienced by birth parents, adopters, and adoptees?  Are there many common complaints being made, but not being exposed by pro-adoption groups and the media?

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Survey?

Is a survey going to be posted with a scale or does one have to post their stories?

The questions needed are-

Did your agency work overseas with banned or corrupt facilitators?

Did your agency lie to you about your child or child's history/child's age?

Have you uncovered facts about your child/child's family that you were not told or told differently?

Does your child have needs that you were not told about?

Why is the media not exposing the DNA fraud that occurred in Guatemala?

Why did the US Embassy know about kidnappings since 1987, yet chose to do nothing and allow adoptions to continue and continue?

questions for adoptive parents

do you feel as though your agency prepared you enough for the emotional problems an adopted child may have?

did they provide professional counselors for post-adoption complications like extreme behavior problems?

or did they refer you to local social services or quacks who involve themselves with the RAD cult?

how did the agency you used respond when you called for help with a serious problem?

response to questions to adoptive parents

Do you feel as though your agency prepared you enough for the emotional problems an adopted child may have?
*Some yes. Enough? No. Had one day "training" with some very good information in it. Later had assigned material we had to test on at end which forced us to read through the material and am glad we got that. I was initially insulted with training because APs are often treated like because they are adopting they must know nothing about children [i.e. I percieved it as basic childcare and not special information I might need for handling special needs of my child]. Was given a lot of references for reading material. Bought several books at own discretion. Not ever asked and don't see mentioned is I feel I would have spent more time preparing, read more, and would have been emotionally prepared more if hadn't spent the majority of our case freaking out over lack of transparency, watching groups get into political tug of wars, and panicking over welfare of children. In other words I think they need to do a better job of preparing parents and making process easier [i.e. not heart failure] instead of running them through a roller coaster before handing them kids that need their parents at their best to meet their kids needs. Its more like process is designed to mess up kids and parents then throw them together. Thats not directed at just agency but all players and process.

Did they provide professional counselors for post-adoption complications like extreme behavior problems?
*yes

Or did they refer you to local social services or quacks who involve themselves with the RAD cult?
*yes also. Those were also some of the book recommendations.

How did the agency you used respond when you called for help with a serious problem?
*no serious problem. we have dealt with all problems with doctors, what works for other families, etc. we have had what I would consider to be normal experiences on coming home.

questions for adoptive parents

Does your agency have a stipulation they can break contract at any time?

* I think this should be modified where if an adoption is in progress they might need to get a third party approval. An agency might need this if a person is deemed unfit etc to continue. However this kind of stipulation can be used to keep parents "in line". Most APs in progress will do anything to prevent angering all the powers that be which could help set the path for adoption abuses.

How transparent is your process? Does your agency have an online database recording the steps that have been taken and need to still occur for completion? Can any of the information be backed up or verified?

Are you able to visit your child? Do you have regular or consistent medical/status reports?
* a lot of time that could be used preparing for post placement might be used fretting over a childs current situation. That is not only wasted time but is adding additional strain to families which should be bolstered and strengthened for child to come home to. The reality is many families are put through a lot of strain and turmoil before uniting them with children who need adults at their best to care for them.

Dissolution

do you feel as though your agency prepared you enough for the emotional problems an adopted child may have? No

did they provide professional counselors for post-adoption complications like extreme behavior problems? No

or did they refer you to local social services or quacks who involve themselves with the RAD cult? They just ignored us

how did the agency you used respond when you called for help with a serious problem? Passed the buck to the homestudy agency.

We dissolved an adoption from China in 2010. It was our second from the China SN program. Our agency was no help and then did not report the disruption to China until we found out. As of yet our dissolution has not been listed on the Dept. of State statistics for 2010 or 2011, even though we were told they were notified. Our agency also made sure when China did find out they blamed us some how and we are told we will never be allowed to adopt from China again. We were given a child with behavioral issues and also undisclosed medical issues that we would have never submitted for. I think families should really be advised that if you ever hope to adopt again and know something is wrong in country to leave the child there. We did not do this and will forever be changed because of the way our life was changed. We have been shunned, scolded, treated horribly and all we did was bring a child home and find her a new home when we knew we couldn't handle her issues.

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