People looking overseas for babies

Let's take the moral issue out of an abortion-plan, because I want readers to see WHY the adoption industry is "good" and why abortion clinics/services are "bad".  There is no future economy with an abortion-plan.  Meanwhile, members working the adoption industry will do whatever it takes to keep ICA alive and well, especially for the sake of the desperate paying prospective parent, who happens to be.... infertile.

Wendy Hawke said some couples had to endure up to three years of bureaucracy and spend between $10,000 and $50,000 on overseas travel, hotel bills and paperwork, but she wanted to tell Kiwis it was possible to achieve their dream of becoming parents. According to Child Youth and Family, the number of domestic adoptions has fallen 40 per cent in five years.

The vast majority of adopters want infants, not older children.  And it cannot be denied the lure of exotic travel, at reasonable prices, has it's own uber-strong appeal.

OF COURSE we stayed at the most expensive and glamorous hotels in the countries we adopted from...  and it cost a pittance of what it does in America.  Even the likes of my low-middle income family could afford to stay in comfort.  We borrowed THOUSANDS, and spent it quickly.  We loved the impression that we were "Rich Americans." 

[From:  comment, OF COURSE we stayed at the best places... ]

This is one of the reasons behind an angry adoptee's statement, "There are no heroes in adoption." and the belief that adoption is never a selfless act.

As the infertile fight for their perceived right to have an infant through adoption, time must be spent to ponder upon the truth behind adoption-matters:  it's the older children who are (and will continue to be) denied and deprived decent care within the care-system because they are not infants.  Here's the sick twist:  looks really matter when it comes to getting good decent help.  Good quality care-systems are expensive, and I see more and more people are more inclined to help support and supply the maternity hospital and nurseries where everything is new and cute for the little ones, but less inclined to assist and repair the older, more difficult challenges that come with neglect.  There's this false belief that ICA will help care-centers that still house kids.  Many people fail to realize quality care-centers will make ICA the last resort it's supposed to be.  Therefore it behooves many who profit via adoption, to keep poor care-systems poor, and have poor-care systems remain the norm.  Create the need, (maintain the neglect), that way the dream to adopt (internationally) may become a reality.  This is not child-centric care.... it's meeting the demands set by a social service gone amok. 

[Oh, the poor poor wanna-be-parents who can't have a baby the good old fashioned way ... whatever shall we do Mr. Adoption Advocate Man?  Ensure the status quo remains, so those with money and a dream will not have give-up on their adoption-plan!]

It used to be an ICA story always involved Aparents living in the US.  Not so anymore.  [Sending countries are not stupid enough to limit child trade to just one region!]

Internal Affairs records reveal 356 international adoptions by Kiwi citizens last year.

And yet record keeping in Adoptionland is poor, at best.

Let's fast-forward and take a new look at an adoption-plan over-seas.

Readers need to see the connection between ICA and hospitality services as they work together to help serve the paying member of the provider-client relationship.  The so-called Orphan Crusade not only increases profits made through the adoption industry, the orphan crusade helps other industries survive, as well.  Simple math:   Limiting ICA numbers means all sales and fees related to international travel will go down.

Cutting tourism hits local economies.  Who will suffer first?  The laborers, not the executives.  But sending countries are NOT limited to sending only to Canada, or the US.  There are many other countries showing a very strong interest in baby-making, via the adoption-plan. 

And the child's best interest is where in this economic equation?

There's a depravity behind each and every ICA plan, but none of this gets discussed openly, as it needs to be discussed.

<sigh>

When Amothers like Wendy teach their adopted daughter about her own adoption-story, I hope they include information about local economies, local governments, available social programs for those trying to find jobs and keep families together, and how international adoption helped solve an over-populated region's problem with so-called "orphans" put in-care. 

It will be very interesting to see what the next generation of adoptees will have to say about a government's involvement behind child placement services and international adoption.