Amothers excited to help others

I have been reading a variety of posts written on adoption.con, and I find myself very disturbed and upset about the "excitement" Amothers have in terms of meeting/contacting foreign B.moms for the first time, and the concerns they share re: "helping" first families with multiple children (full-siblings related to the "chosen" adoptee).

Can anyone please explain to me how anyone can rave about a birthfamily/first mom, voice a concern about living conditions (and ask what is the best way to send money to these families left-behind -- should it be through churches, charities, direct donations?) then justify adoption?