City's orphanage under high court scanner

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NEW DELHI: An orphanage, whose licence was revoked but later cancelled, is now under the scanner of Delhi high court for alleged child trafficking.

Justice Ajit Bharihoke earlier this week had asked the Delhi Police and the state government to investigate why there was a discrepancy in the number of children housed by the orphanage in 2008 and the numbers that came after three headcounts in past few years. Suspecting that some of the children might have been trafficked, the HC asked the police to probe this angle too.

The court was hearing a petition filed by one Dinesh Sharma, the father of a minor boy who was illegally dispatched to the orphanage by the police after he was found loitering alone. The kid was subsequently adopted by relatives of a member of Parliament, Navin Jindal. They lost the case before a guardianship court over the boy's custody to his father Sharma. The boy had gone missing while playing in front of his relatives house in Uttam Nagar in 2004. According to the family, he lost his way while returning home and was found by the police.

In his petition in the HC, Sharma through his lawyer D D Singhla has alleged that his son was illegally sent to the orphanage. A truck driver by profession, Sharma has also sought compensation from the government and the police for keeping his child away from him for the last four years. He also wants a CBI probe into the alleged nexus between the police and orphanages in Delhi.

According to Sharma's petition, his son was handed over to the Bal Vihar Orphanage in Palam by the police even when he had lodged a complaint with the police. He further alleged that as per report of the department of women and child welfare, produced in July 2008, the orphanage did not even have a licence to run an adoption agency, yet they handed over his son to one Anil and Vandana Jindal.

Instead of informing him that Prateek had been found, police decided to dispatch the kid to the orphanage, the father alleges in the petition, accusing the police of being hand-in-glove with the orphanage in running an adoption racket. The guardianship court that re-united the boy with his family took serious objection to the entire manner in which the minor was given away for adoption and faulted the police theory. It also asked the cops to improve policing.

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Far too many blogging PAP's will INSIST the "right" compassionate thing to do is open our hearts to international adoption, and sign insane petitions like those found on the internet, claiming the so-called orphans found in an orphanage need you (the cash-paying foreign PAP) to advocate their needs.  "Their needs".  Hmm... the child's or those who make money off each orphan sold before the end of the business day?  Let's assume the needs of the so-called orphan child means "a home in America, complete with stacked washer and dryer, HDTV, and Happy Meals or Kraft mac and cheese five times a week."  [We all know orphanage directors have different needs, like BMW's and second homes.... and adoption facilitators, paid in cash, yea, all they really need is enough money to buy enough food, for a week, for an entire family.]

Better yet, are the reminders on blogs written by those who want to remind the Average Joe and Jane with debt to pay, James 1:27 , which commands (and I quote from a blogger who shall remain nameless) "that we ALL care for the orphan and widow in SOME way!" [Just don't look behind the curtain, where the cloak of transparency conveniently hides the concerned parents asking, "Where the hell are our children?!?"]

Oh, BTW, good news, modern (wo)men, God called me late last night and told me He really WANTS us all to facilitate the corrupt international adoption process.  Yea,  according to Him, corrupt unethical foreign adoptions serve the best interest of each and every child found in an orphanage, and for Americans, there's an extra fun bonus to the blessings of ICA.  International adoption actually helps reduce all those crazy problems we seem to have with child welfare, homelessness, and unwanted pregnancies .  Pass the word, and <pst> send the donation plate my way.   I'm runnin a little low. Thanx. 

<looking around for something other than coffee or a bullet to swallow>

Do adopters choosing ICA REALLY think what happens in India is limited to India?  [Is it akin to "What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas"?]

I just can't wrap my head around this limited mythical thinking so many PAP's have.  Thank GOD there are AP's who have been hurt and still stood tall to voice their complaints, because if not for them, there's no way people would ever pay attention to the stories shared by foreign adoptees, or their not-so-dead living and lied-to parent.

I think it's time people start looking at the fall-out that develops, thanks to corrupt ICA.  The drive to adopt a foreign child does a funny thing to welfare systems for women and children in many foreign countries.

Studies show on that women live six to eight years on average longer than men, but the report says those years aren't necessarily healthy. Women often have greater difficulty obtaining quality health care because of what it calls gender-based inequalities in education, income and employment.

"We will not see significant progress as long as women are regarded as second-class citizens in so many parts of the world," Chan said. "In so many societies, men exercise political, social and economic control. ... These unequal power relations translate into unequal access to health care and unequal control over health resources."

In making women's health a priority, the World Health Organization says it is trying to improve health care for women and girls around the world, as well as strengthen health systems everywhere.

"Improving women's health matters to women, to their families, communities and societies at large," the report concludes. "Improve women's health, improve the world."

[From:  WHO: Women's health an 'urgent priority', November 11, 2009 ]

Unfortunately, the only time many of these impoverished women/children can get decent health-care is if they agree to relinquish a child, through  foreign adoption.  A most interesting article that oddly enough supports my belief that ICA actually limits quality heath-care to those who will agree to an international adoption-plan was written in November 17, 2010, published just in-time for Adoption Awareness Week. 

<WHEW!>

Author Danielle Friedman tried to explain the orphan-crisis, in her piece titled, "Making Adoption Work".  Among other things, she explained how war, poverty, and AIDS impact the world in ways that we never realized before.  Yep, thanks to war, unsafe sex, and poverty, we (Americans, especially) are now forced to face the unpleasant music (natural consequences?) and confront the staggering statistic: 163 million orphans need homes.  Granted, among that ginormous over-the-top Orphanpalooza number is the simple lost fact that many of those children have lost only one parent, and many of those so-called orphans also have surviving extended family members capable of providing kinship care, IF they were supported like adopters are supported via monthly subsidy checks.  [I know, I know, details, pesky annoying details...yes I will move on, with pleasure.... but for some reason I can't get my mind off of Vietnam and Korea.]

In addition, the author tried to worry me/us Americans with the frightful idea that above that uber upsetting orphan number, there are... hold on kids... 20 million “displaced children,” in need of good decent care.

<GASP>  Why, that's not at ALL equal to the 15.5 million "displaced children" in America!!

Good Holy Moses, "the number in need is larger than the population of Russia. Some live in institutions, some on the streets—in manholes or garbage dumpsters, as The Daily Beast’s editor in chief, Tina Brown, noted in her opening remarks. The question posed to each attendee was: How can we help?".  Yes, Americans, how can WE help those who are homeless, displaced, and in need of quality health-care and housing?  Please, pray tell.

In honor of National Adoption Awareness Month, and gathered at Urban Zen in Manhattan’s West Village—a loft-like event space and foundation founded by Donna Karan, geared toward empowering children—the eclectic group of attendees attempted to tackle this complex issue.

For many Americans, our first impulse in confronting what Brown described as a “heartbreaking challenge” is to bring these children into our own homes, as glamorously advertised by the likes of Angelina Jolie and Madonna. And in a one-on-one interview, renowned adoption specialist Dr. Jane Aronson—a pediatrician who’s been nicknamed “the orphan doctor,” and CEO and founder of the Worldwide Orphans Foundation—spoke frankly about the realities of this choice.

Given the lack of prenatal care in many developing countries, many orphans start life “blighted,” Aronson told Brown, malnourished before they’re even born. They’re then exposed to trauma after birth, leading to physical and developmental delays.

 The key for prospective parents is to approach adoption with eyes wide open. “Children have these problems, and we have to be honest about those problems,” Aronson said. “People need to know what they’re getting into. And they need to then either step up to it, or not sign on for it.”

Enter the fine fine people who provide Maternity Home services, like Bethany, Gladney, and Buckner.

<reaching for barf bag.... CURSE my wretched symptoms!>

If not for the American adoption industry, where would these women, who are pregnant, or have young children, go for decent health care?

I gee-fucking-wonder.  Pardon my French.  [My Adad had the mouth of a drunk sailor/truck-driver, even though he was USA Army, all the way.]

Can any American imagine such a condition?  In order to get decent health care, (which isn't always guaranteed, because quacks - or crooks -  could be used instead of quality doctors), cash payment is/would not be necessary or required, because in order to be guaranteed longish-term health-care (and paid-for follow-up visits), you must relinquish all legal rights to your first (second, third....) born. 

(Oh, and P.S., that story we told you about frequent letters and photos from your child-sacrifice?  Yea, we lied.  BYE-Bye, and may your god bless you a million times over.) 

<shaking head, as I take a swallow of something stronger than kool-aid>

I honestly don't know how so many find this form of health-care for foreigners remotely acceptable,  especially if one takes the time to think about all the many thousands of adoptable American children, are ALSO in need of decent home/health-care, but given wacky doses of psychotropic medication, instead.  You know, to deal with the depression, and abandonment, and all that stupid "feel sorry for me" lazy American crap.

This is exactly why so many adult adoptees born in and outside the USA borders say there are no heroes in adoption, and there is no altruism in foreign adoption.  Every act of American kindness has a price.  In Adoptionland, the price for better health-care is relinquishment of all parental rights, and to make matters worse, for each foreign child "saved" through adoption, there is at least one local adoptable child overlooked and forgotten, and medicated to death, or near-death.  [Sorry, for the super-petty, I don't have actual statistics for that one.... sometimes hyperbole has a better effect.]

<long heavy sigh>

Sometimes I really wish I could rule the world for a day or two.  If it were up to me, I would order a one-year world-wide experiment. The experiment would be simple, and utilize each foreign adoption plan in it's last "ready to fly to your temporary American home" stage.  I would order, for each and every foreign adoption plan, the chosen "adopter" would be nothing more than a short-term benefactor, who would be financially responsible for all health-care needs for mother/child eligible for adoption support.  Sure, I'd allow some flexibility, for bonding-sake.  For instance, the benefactors would be more than welcome to open their homes to mother/child in need of medical services, but they would not be required to do so.  A modest hotel room, and modest meal-plan would serve just as well. [We all know poor people don't require rooms and food like rich folk... they're used to doing without!]

I would love to see how popular such a philanthropic program would be.  (Can any one imagine the waiting-list for this sort of proposal?  Oooh, I'd love to help create the transparent invitations that would be sent to potential agreeable participants (PAPs)... I'd insist some where on the see-through page, one could clearly read the large print:  "The promise you keep will cost at least tens of thousands of dollars, and all you would get in return is a lifetime of Thank You letters from the poor".  My heart pitter-patters as I imagine which celebrities will line-up and take the bait!)

Yea, I can only imagine how far the following would feed the American ego -- the one that requires far more than a useless piece of paper....

 "Thank you, my dear dear adoptive parents, health care benefactors, without you, X, Y and Z would never have been possible this year.  Without you and your help and support, none of this good news would be possible.  With much love, appreciation, and humble thanks, your adopted mother/child, fvjhbdfsvbsbvsunvsi     p.s., We have no photos, (no camera) but we drew pictures for you.  Enjoy. xo" 

Well, it might make nice wallpaper for those with more than one home.

<sick laugh>

Sometimes I crack myself up.

Fortunately, I took the time to read the list of solutions offered by those discussing adoption/orphan issues

Maybe hope lives, after all. Time will tell how Americans respond to the "orphan crisis" and welfare problems around the globe.

Time for my bottle.  [My diagnosis:  Adoptus Vulgaris.  Prognosis: Not good. ]

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