Child "disciplined" with hot sauce and cold showers!

what a parent does should never exceed common sense when disciplining children, and a little chilli sauce or a cold shower is not abuse by any means in my opinion, however, it is not ok if the sauce is so hot it can cause harm, or the shower so cold there can be a risk of hyperthermia. Regardless of the obvious debate that this topic will undoubtedly cause amonst parents worldwide, about whether it is more appropriate than smacks or more inappropriate, i must call in to question the need for crazy angry discipline at all. I am ex military and grew up in a household where my mother literally had a metre long ruler she would throttle me with. To get me to do homework, i was locked in a room with an alarm clock outside, when it went off, my homework was perfect or i had no dinner and was smacked, my schools were no better, my teacher regularly stole my crisps from my lunchbox, punched her knuckles on my head or grabbed me by the ears and dragged me across the floor, i have had the cane, the slipper and a good old handbagging, with several school issue octagonal weights in the handbag, all by the head mistress. She used to use towel days as a form of discipline! Every child at school had their bag checked at random occasions. If you had a towel on a non towel day, you were punished, and if it was a towel day and you didn't have one, likewise! Lol, totally insane, the moral of the story was, you will be punished for being alive unless you guess correctly every day! My father had his hand on me many times too, but i don't care to go into that as it hurts to bring it up, (he was much tougher, a good kicking in public was not unheard of). All the while, i never hurt or killed anyone, rarely dared answer back and wasn't prone to destroying stuff, so i trully don't recall why i was punished. I may have been slightly hyperactive, but it wasn't so bad that it was a cause for the ritalin i was forced to take or the hours listening to the droning voice of a psychiatrist, because i didn't do what i was told! I can tell you now that one of the main reasons for this discipline was both my parents insistant belief that i must eat eggs, and my lack of desire to comply on account or my constant vomiting whenever i did... the only good egg is a chocolate egg, lol!
However i digress and whinge, the point is i have been with the same woman ( the only sexual partner i have ever had ), for 11 and a half years, and we have a ten year old girl, we do not smack her, or kick her, or force feed her, or ever neglect to feed her, lol, or give her hot sauce and cold shower punishments. She can be a bit of a shit sometimes when she wants to answer back, can't we all, but she is a good child who simply argues once in a while because she knows us to be wrong, and only when she knows we are. In these cases, sometimes it really is her who is wrong, it is then proven to her satisfaction and she apologises, other times, we are wrong and we likewise apologise. We achieve this satisfactory life with her rather than a hateful domineering one, because we treat her with the same respect we expect from her, it's not that hard to understand right? The problem with previous generations of parents, is, they were so fixated on the rules and the discipline, that they forgot that kids are people too and have every right to an opinion, especially when they are right! There is no point telling kids we love them then treating them in any other way than a loving parent should! Firm but fair yes, hot sauce and cold showers? Definitely not!