Adoptive parents face felony charges for son's alleged sex abuse

Date: 2010-05-17
Source: KFOR

OKLAHOMA CITY -- Adoptive parents, Jonathan and Jaime Swim, are each facing one felony count for "permitting child sexual abuse," according to court documents. Authorities believe the Swims knew one of their adopted children was sexually abusing their other children and did not do enough to stop it. The Swims have five adopted children and were in the process of adopting a sixth.

They have fostered 17 children in the past 12 years. Jaime Swim says, "This has been our ministry. I was a foster child and that's why we got into it."

The Swims say the charges stem from an incident they reported to the Department Of Human Services in April.

The Swims believe investigators twisted their children's words and fabricated the basis for the criminal charges.

Jonathan Swim says they learned about one incident of inappropriate touching involving their teenage son, last month.

Swim says turning in their oldest child on suspicion of abuse was one of the most difficult things they've ever done.

"Did an incident happen? Yes. Did we want it to happen? No way. But we did the right thing. We reported it," Swim said.

The couple's attorney, Marco Palumbo says the couple took several of their children to have a sexual assault exam immediately.

Palumbo says there is no physical evidence of sexual assault.

He believes all charges will be dropped against the Swims.

In the meantime, all children have been removed from the Swims home pending the outcome of the criminal trial.

DHS will not comment on the specifics of this case.

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Very interesting case, as it seems to touch upon a theme that hits close to my own Ahome/experience.

According to the above article, they learned about one incident of inappropriate touching involving their teenage son, last month. [T]urning in their oldest child on suspicion of abuse was one of the most difficult things they've ever done.

This oldest son was adopted, correct? 

What if the oldest child was their biological son/daughter, and that bio child was sexually abusing the adopted children?  Would the report to authorities have been as swift?  Would that parental admission have been more difficult?  This is a question many of us sexually abused adoptees wonder... are sexually abusive bio children and AP's more protected than the adopted/fostered/step counter-parts?  It sure as hell seems so. 

When sibling sexual abuse takes place in an adoptive home, it's almost always assumed it's the adopted child acting inappropriately.  As a result, action against the offensive adoptee (spelled: removal) is often immediate. 

When sibling sexual abuse takes place in an adoptive home, and it's the bio child acting inappropriately, it's the adopted child who has to learn to accept offensive behavior, and live with it.

 

Your are very true about the

Your are very true about the adopted child having to live with it i went through it my self when i was 6 or 7 years old i was sexually abused from my older adoptive brother but i was the adoptee and he was the biological son. The adoptive mother didnt do much but keep an eye on him that he wouldnt do it but it happeneded for like 2 years she never reported him.

From my perspective...

This was stated:  "The Swims believe investigators twisted their children's words and fabricated the basis for the criminal charges."

And Teddy says, DAMN THEM ALL TO HELL!!!    ... BIG healthy sigh...

I have all adopted children.  When sexual molestation was found in my home, I IMMEDIATELY sought help.  I TURNED MY OWN HUSBAND IN!!!
Do you have any idea what it is like to place your whole life and future into the hands of the Department of (NON)Human Services???
Can you imagine what it does to your mind and heart and soul to call the police and turn your own husband in for sexual abuse AFTER he has confessed to you???

It is HELL!  It is the right and ONLY thing to do, but it is hell...

And the way the SYSTEM works:  GET your man, ANY way you can.

My children told the truth; I TOLD THE TRUTH!  And yet, when my daughter was taken, she was labeled a victim and force-fed hatred until she didn't know what was true
and what was a lie.  She finally did a statement for the court, she told them she DID NOT KNOW if she was telling the truth or not.  After turning 18, she wrote a letter to the
judge and EVERYONE involved stating that she was so angry that she told many lies; she wanted everyone to hurt like she was hurting.  I forgave my daughter's lies about my two oldest sons and myself.  There were NEVER any charges against us, because they knew what they were doing to her, and the things that were a lie were very obvious.

I am here to state that I did not know one single thing about the abuse of my daughter, that went on for years.  It does happen.  It can happen.  And I realize that the ones
writing here were treated with such utter disrespect as a human being as to NOT have charges brought against the one who DID molest them.  This is a mockery against
adoption.  This is why I lay down my life (the rest of it as I thought it would be) for my children's safety.  I can't imagine how you feel, not having anyone stand up for you; but then, maybe I do... NO ONE wanted to stand up for me and the truth that I did not know... But because God knew the truth, I was vindicated fully.  I pray that some day, ALL adopted and abused children/adults will be vindicated, and the truth be told.  If only for posterity, and to RIGHT a wrong; but truly for the sake of the minds of each child who was wronged.  God have mercy.

Teddy

Turning the bastards in

 When sexual molestation was found in my home, I IMMEDIATELY sought help.  I TURNED MY OWN HUSBAND IN!!!
Do you have any idea what it is like to place your whole life and future into the hands of the Department of (NON)Human Services???
Can you imagine what it does to your mind and heart and soul to call the police and turn your own husband in for sexual abuse AFTER he has confessed to you???

It is HELL!  It is the right and ONLY thing to do, but it is hell...

Not many spouses/Aparents will do this, especially if the abuser is a blood-relative or chosen partner. 

It takes tremendous courage to do the morally correct thing.

Not many have the balls, or stomach, to do it.

In some cases, the partner/parent doesn't want to stir trouble, because the after-math will be just.... awful.

In other cases, investigative agencies are afraid; they don't want to be accused of "wrong-doing". [Really, I cannot make this crap up, even if I wanted to...]

A homosexual foster couple were left free to sexually abuse vulnerable boys in their care because social workers feared being accused of discrimination if they investigated complaints, an inquiry concluded yesterday.

Craig Faunch and Ian Wathey were one of the first homosexual couples in the country to be officially approved as foster parents.

They looked after 18 children in only 15 months.

With no previous convictions, they came across as respectable men who simply wanted to help boys with a variety of problems.

In reality, they were paedophiles, who repeatedly abused the children in their care.

Even when the mother of two of the children reported her suspicions to the council, officials accepted the men's explanations and did nothing.

Instead of banning children from staying with Faunch and Wathey, they sent youngsters with more serious problems to them. Between them, the couple abused four boys aged between eight and 14.

In a scathing report published yesterday, Wakefield Metropolitan District Council was condemned for treating the men as "trophy carers".

The children's charity Kidscape said those in charge of overseeing the safety of children in the care of Faunch and Wathey had allowed political correctness to override common sense.

[From:  Gay couple left free to abuse boys - because social workers feared being branded homophobic ]

The excuses given to NOT do what needs to be done are just.... ridiculous and inexcusable.  [And remember without a complaint OR conviction, a sex abuser is free to continue his/her sexually abusive ways because the criminal back ground check will show no issued conviction/complaint record.]

I'm sure (I hope), Teddy, you are now beginning to reap the benefits of doing what was best for your kids, and not what would have been easiest for you and your married partner.  I admire that in a person,  BIG time.

I must add...

I wanted to add that my daughter and I have a very deep commitment to each other and our family, that this NEVER happen again.

The benefits are my EYES WIDE OPENED...  I believe most people get caught believing this could never happen to them or their family.  It can happen to anyone.  Getting past the pride and blinders, and  believing what you suspect is another thing I see clearly now.  I truly did not ever suspect a single thing was wrong.  But if I go back and dig through all the chaos of a huge adoptive family, I can see how it did happen.  Many of us believe our spouses when they claim to be a Christian, therefore, there is never any doubt that things are fine.  Looking back, it is appalling how fastidious a pedophile can be; how patient they are over years, building a screen around themselves so that NO ONE in the community would ever suspect them.  I'm not even sure my daughter was his only victim.  If it is proper to be relieved, then I am relieved that she was the only one he molested in our family.  No one in his extended family has ever claimed he molested them; but then, my daughter never said a word for years. 

Teddy

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