who placed more kids with this woman???

Got a good laugh re-reading the original post.

Every one of them [12...count them..12 children] has their own issues to work through from Schizo-Affective Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Complex PTSD, Reactive Attachment Disorder, Sensory Integration Dysfunction, ADHD, and Cerebral Palsy. Most of our children have been victims of sexual abuse by a close family member, several are currently acting out sexually or are exhibiting predatory behaviors.

Sounds like such a safe wonderful homey place to live, doesn't it?  Hey... who volunteers to live there next?  I'm sure they can find an opening.

I would be mortified if I knew my adopters were capitalizing off me.

Oh, you mean like Judith Leekin who 'earned' more than $1 million (in subsidies) for the care and attention she gave her "Special' brood?  [What?  Those zip ties and handcuffs were fun carefully selected restraints kept them SAFE!]  Or Renee Bowman, who sacrificed side-by-side freezer space, so she could collect over $2600 per month for the one surviving adopted sibling? [Yes, those murdered adoptees were 'Special', too... earning all sorts of Super Duper Saintly AParenting Subsidy Points.)  Or do you mean adopters like the pompous Pompas, the 1.4 million dollar orphan-savers who only took what they thought was 'legally' and therefore rightfully (?) theirs? [You know, it's not easy taking-in a virtual stranger into your home, and treating that person as 'one of your own'..... there's a lot of work and sacrifice involved.]

Indeed, I would grow very sick knowing my Aparents were taking money away from me..... but then again, my Amother actually did.    [That's a whole 'nother story, I learned well after-the-fact.]

These kids come with personal aids, all kids of day care programs and very little out of pocket expense.

Ah... the parents who need breaks.  I know them well, and lemme tell ya, spoiled lazy Breeders, needing spa-treatments and extended solo vacations because the kids are just 'too much', can be just as bad and annoying.... especially if the complaining parent has only 1 or 2 kids and two very involved extended families who like to babysit. 

Here's the problem, as it seems to reveal itself more and more in  adoption blogs and adoption-related news articles, adopters are admitting they are indeed facing serious difficulties with their foreign or fostered children.  Many claim the new-family additions came with pre-existing conditions like RAD, 'institutional autism', and whatever other phrase fits the almost typical adoptee profile going out these days -- you know, the one that claims the previously unwanted child behaves like an animal or pint-sized psychopath, until, of course New Mommy and Daddy fix that problem-child with special skilled treatment-therapy sessions, and of course, LOVE.  These unsuspecting, ill-prepared parents are in way over-their-head and they're seeing a whole new every-day reality.   [See: Trouble in Adoptionland and  listen to the media-supported 'professional' hype, and ask, how in the world is money for post-adoption services being spent?!?!? ]

Scary, isn't it? 

And still, as long as AP's blog about RAD and attachment disorders as their own breed of Special Needs, and go into great detail about the problems they, (the parents/adults) face - financially, emotionally, physically - the band-wagon for more government-paid-breaks for American adopters will keep growing.  Is that such a bad thing?  Not necessarily.  As long as assistance given to parents is reasonable and fair, and challenging children are responding to safe, appropriate care/treatment favorably, there should be no major problems.  However, I tend to believe assistance given to parents is NOT fair.... never has been.  Those with more money are almost always given more perks, breaks, special allowances and favors, than those with less money.  It's a class-social thing, and the Haves rarely ever have to do without.  [Ah,  yes... I can hear the critical reply...."Who ever said life was fair, equal or even?"  Not the manufactured orphan, that's for damn sure.]

Truth is, there are lots of parents who need help with the many difficult problems that come with children who are born less than perfect....children born with AFS, autism, heart defects, CF, epilepsy, Down's Syndrome, etc.   Often times, the help a parent needs is not locally available AND that help tends to be very very expensive.... especially if it's decided the very sick child needs long-term hospitalization OR the 'very disturbed and troubled' (spelled: dangerous) child needs to live in a Residential Treatment Center, aka, an institution.  But here's a very essential point to make:  Who says only adopted children have these very expensive special needs?  Who says only adopters need extensive tax breaks, financial assistance for much needed health services, and subsidized respite care?  In other words, do first-parents get government subsidies to care for 'difficult' children, and their needs, or is it only the adopters who are given these special breaks?  [I'm not being hyper-critical, I honestly don't know, because I'm very very fortunate, my husband always had great health insurance, and I learned to live with four young children, three with health-issues, without any extended family assistance.]

So I continue with more questions.... How does government subsidy payment (for care) get decided?  Is it based on what label is given an adopted child?  [See:  CPS Psych Evals and  Adoption Norms For Foreigners ]   Or is financial assistance for the adopter always a standard sliding-scale given, based on parent salary, marital status, minority status, and XYZ factors?  Last but not least, is subsidy-check-spending monitored, and if so, by whom.... the issuing government?  Based on the many things I see/read in real-life and in our abuse pages, there is nothing fair and appropriate about the way in which very unlucky adoptees are treated by their adoptive abusers.  That's just the way it is, and always has been.

Still, all in all, the public must continue to praise, not criticize or question, adoption advocates, adopters and all the money that goes into raising a child The American Adopted Way. Gawd forbid all American AP's are not shown thanks and high-fivin' two-thumbs-up moral support, especially by their purchased/subsidized children.

We'll see how our prison system looks in another decade.  Exciting, isn't it?