Eugenics and the affect on adoption

Have any of adoptee’s ever had an adoptive family member or as in my case a step-adoptive family member use the sick perverted Eugenic theory to encourage others to think badly about you?

Is my case unique?

When my AP’s divorced after 13 yrs my AM remarried, before the ink dried on the divorce papers, to one of the most controlling, diabolically cruel man who for the next 35 years stopped at nothing to keep me away from my AM and her family. He did not just hurt me in the process but in the end denied my children a grandmother and came close to causing them to be removed from my life as well.

For the life of me, I could never figure out why this man hated me so much. Examples as to how he showed his hate,

  1. Refused to allow my mother help me when my newborn daughter developed colic using the excuse “You had her, you take care of her.”
  2. He made it impossible for me or my children to visit my AM even during the holidays. When I called to ask to, they were always too busy or had other plans. No invites from other AF dried up shortly after my daughter’s birth as they became too busy or had other plans. I would learn years later this man had a big part in their decision to treat us this way.
  3. When I became pregnant with my son he and my AM came to see me. Their motive was to insist that since my husband and I had separated, I should make plans to place this unborn child up for adoption.  I refused.
  4. When I was released with an Honorable discharge from the USAF 2 yrs later, CPS became a monthly visitor after I moved back to my hometown.  After the 10th visit, even the case worker became tied of the whole situation. She even went so far as to hint if I moved and told no one where I lived her even her life would be more pleasant.  
  5. I lived in the same small town as my AM for 3 yrs while working full time, and attending college but  she never was able to see the inside of my home the whole time. Every time I invited her, he would have something else planned. I would drive by their house and they were always home.  If I called, the machine would always pick up. No explanation would ever be given.
  6. When CPS didn’t so what he wanted, take away my children, he even tried to get their father to take them from me, my ex refused.

This stuff went on until I graduated from college. My AFather was the only person at my graduation ceremony. AM and her husband had scheduled their vacation in Europe and they had left just hours before it began. How convenient for them.

During all of this I would be told be family friends that they were surprised I had my children still with me and that I had even completed school. It seems this man had been complaining to everyone that I was flunking or in the process of being kicked out of school and neglecting my children so bad that the welfare was trying to get them to take them.

When I was finally  able to get my non-identifying information from the state of Texas, I discovered my 1st mother had mental health issues. By the symptoms described it seemed possible she had Bipolar disorder. Silly me, I mentioned this to AM on one of my rare visits with her. It was then she replied, “That would explain why you acted like you did all these years”. She then went on to explain what her husband had drilled into her head all those years. He had convinced her that adopted children were from people who were sick and demented. That “these kinds of people” had no business procreating. They do not have the common sense stop, and how it surprised him when I had stopped at only 3. They had all expected me to have 6 or more.

When I asked her where he got the “evidence” for this belief. He broke in and started reciting the malicious theory of eugenics even naming the sicko scientists   August Weissmann and  Francis Galton and praising their work in trying to stop the unworthy people from creating more unfit children for society to raise.

Has anyone else had anything similar happen to them?

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Sad, but not at all surprising

I know of a few situations in which one or both AP's thought because the birth-mother was a teen mom (aka, slut), the daughter would be one, too.  You know, the-apple-doesn't-fall-too-far-from-the-tree sorta thing.

Of course, one can only imagine what sort of punishment a teen gets when a psycho-mad parent assumes there is "wrong doing" a-brewing.

If you ask me, hatred towards adoptees is not new or unique... especially if you were sent to live within a very dysfunctional family.  It's yet another adoption issue some of us luckier chosen children get to face.

bad blood

Although eugenics and terms like "bad blood" are no longer used by social workers, as it was common in the first half of the twentieth century, it has not stopped in the mind of people.

My adoptive mother would never stop letting me know that I inherited one or the other "undesirable trait" from either my father or my mother. Being adopted within my own family, I had no leg to stand on in that respect, since she knew my orginal parents very well. Still I think she is full of shit. The undesirable traits were always the ones she or my adoptive father didn't have, of course.

Desired traits

Oddly enough, I had an opposite-like-experience.

Any good within me was supposed to have been seen as a direct result and reflection of my Aparents.

This went as far as it being ok to admit I was adopted, but we had to pretend first-parent biology had no influence on me, what-so-ever.

If I liked to read, and proved myself to be an excellent student?  That was because I was smart, like my Amother.

If I had a good wicked sense of humour?  That was because I was just like my Adad, a man who was known to have the devil in his eye.

Somehow, through osmosis (wishful thinking), I was to become the biologic daughter of my Aparents, whether I wanted to or not.

I didn't mind this game all that much until I had children of my own.  Suddenly I was so very grateful not to have any biologic ties to those people.  With an enormous sigh of relief I went through my first pregnancy knowing I didn't have any of their diseased genes floating in my own gene-pool.... and yet,  after birth, that's when it hit me...I didn't know what hereditary conditions loomed before me and my children, either.  Of course, my concerns didn't matter.... what mattered is what my Aparents thought and believed.  When my first-born arrived with blue eyes.... (myself having eyes as brown as bark)... first comment from my Amother was, "OOOOH!  She has blue eyes, just like me!"  When I became pregnant with fraternal twins, suddenly I took after my Afather's sister who gave birth to identical twins.

Whatever medical conditions my children have?  "Oh, that comes from The Other Family, not us!"

I was never to allowed to say something came from my birth-family.... any and all signs of healthy normalcy, including good natural talents or abilities, had to come from my adoptive ones.  Biology never mattered.

Only when I showed signs of not being as they wished was my adoption used as the reason/excuse.

"Bad blood" rhetoric is just purity anxiety

Straight out of the Nazis, Western and Eastern European murderous pogroms against Jews and Roma, apartheid, and worldwide European colonialism in general.

Oh yeah and anti-miscegenation, segregationist/confederate/kkk USA and Canada.

Can't forget those two prolonged bouts of purity-hysteria, much of which still persists...

The "eugenics" effect.

I had never heard of "eugenics" until I became "literate", beyond the basics, via self taught computer use. On learning about eugenics I realise that it has been the major  "missing link" in mine and many others upbringing. So much so that I think, Kerry, we need to consider a special section on this topic, even within the "Adult Aftermath" section.

The reason I suggest this is  because Eugenics Theory is such a chillingly seductive idea that has such a hold over our society from top to bottom and provides an excuse for inhumane policies and treatment of all people from the very young to the old. The elderly are convinced to suicide and relatives to murder of convienience, funding for medical treatment and the disabled are affected, and business profits, political careers and welfare policies are made from it. What do you think? Today's corporate entities are the ultimate practising eugenically constructed societies, as is "free market" policies, and the seductive "worker's paradise" society promoted as a "free and just" society...for the fortunate. Biologically constructed hell for the "rest".

**Footnote; Yesturday I was reading a post about the medical experiments done before during and after the Nazi era. There are many adults (and their children) whose lives are still affected by the eugenics policies that still struggle to come to terms with what happened to them and have no place to go for recognition and healing. Also The recent National Geographics documentory on the Argentinian Twins Village has been Banned in our country. On reading that post I suspect I have come to an understanding about the reasons why, and none of (the reasons) are good. It makes me wonder who is sitting in the "hot seat" over eugenics practise here. Trying to discuss the eugenics subject is tantamount to peeing in the corner at a posh restaurant. You would get more respect if you did that.  Even braching the subject with people who are victimised because of it makes them angry at you!

Social-clean-up, British/Blair-style

Posted on youtube July, 2008

Note the label:  "Dysfunctional families"

 

Lol Tony Blair

Tony Blergg is a fine one to have been yapping about dysfunctional children, after running along behind us to kill off the children of Iraq.

Dunno about the source that posted that video, though. They seem all wrapped up in Alex Jones/NWO conspiracy theory stuff.

N#zis, yeah, but USA has also been one of the worst offenders

The reason I suggest this is  because Eugenics Theory is such a chillingly seductive idea that has such a hold over our society from top to bottom and provides an excuse for inhumane policies and treatment of all people from the very young to the old. The elderly are convinced to suicide and relatives to murder of convienience, funding for medical treatment and the disabled are affected, and business profits, political careers and welfare policies are made from it. What do you think? Today's corporate entities are the ultimate practising eugenically constructed societies, as is "free market" policies, and the seductive "worker's paradise" society promoted as a "free and just" society...for the fortunate. Biologically constructed hell for the "rest".

This sounds very confused to me.

Eugenics is/was pseudoscience used by state actors to curtail bodily integrity of its own citizens. Here, we have no "workers paradise", nor do we have any death panels for the elderly, which is long-discredited nonsense promoted by discredited people.

We still do have neo-eugenic sites like Gene Expression (gnxp.com), and all manner of residual eugenical ideas that stem from some venal mix of colonialism, white settler mentality, white supremacy, pseudo-democracy, as well as other hangups about class, status, other people's perceptions, keep up with the jonses, etc.

As for this thread, try Buck vs Bell, among the most egregious of eugenics-based laws because it was a SCOTUS decision. That's leaving out all the many state eugenics boards, racial purity and racial hygiene laws, one drop laws, anti-miscegenation statues, forced assimilation programs and the way those things interacted with business, medical, pharma etc interests.

Against Their Will, a fairly flashy apology made by the Winston-Salem Journal for having loudly trumpeted the actions of North Carolina's eugenics board, is also a good resource.

There are many many many others on the web, but these 2 are pretty foundational, imo.

Dandel and Marion, ck out the Holocaust Museum in DC

There is one complete section in the museum on genetic purity and demonizing the Jewish race as inferior. Birth records, family trees, medical records.  Nazi Germany took it very seriously genetic engineering to have a superior Aryan race. 

As sick as it sounds, it was actually quite interesting looking at all the relics and propaganda.  Equally amazing that people some 70-80 years ago fell for this in mass hysteria that their race was threatened and going to be dummy downed.  Ah the power of propaganda!

If you haven't seen it yet

As sick as it sounds, it was actually quite interesting looking at all the relics and propaganda.  Equally amazing that people some 70-80 years ago fell for this in mass hysteria that their race was threatened and going to be dummy downed.  Ah the power of propaganda!

German propaganda archive, Calvin College

Nazi/eugenic propaganda galore.

The US has its own versions, with people here still falling for it, up to the minute of this posting.

(One difference between the US and the 3rd Reich being, the latter never hid their eliminationist behavior, norms and laws behind lofty concepts like "democracy" or "all men created equal" and such.)

Try ending up gay, see what eugenics garbage you get thrown @ U

Post title says it all. No anti-adoptee eugenics arguments are not new. Neither are anti-gay (used just this past week in the Prop 8 trial) or anti-nonwhite- or anti-poor-white people eugenics arguments anything new.

Thank god I don't ever have to be compelled to procreate and inflict more misery onto the world with more children.

That's other people's cross to bear.

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