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Sometimes I just don't know what is motivating people, especially when it involves future family planning, children, and a simple adoption inquiry.

Found was the following question:

Is It Ok To Adopt In Hopes Of Conceiving A Baby Naturally?

A lot of people say that as soon as they adopted, they were quickly able to get pregnant. Is adoption a reasonable method for curing infertility?   [From:  http://conceivingbaby.jankk.com/is-it-ok-to-adopt-in-hopes-of-conceiving-a-baby-naturally, August 10, 2009]

At the time of this posting, 21 replies have already been published.

Among the many, "you should not adopt because you think it will cure your infertility" and "learn to relax" responses was this one lone voice:

Interesting question because my son was adopted by people who later had of their own. They adopted because they thought they could not get pregnant. Then later on, two “surprise babies” were conceived when they were in their mid-30s.
So ironic as one of the pressure-tactics applied to me to force me to sign papers was the social worker and my parents telling me that i had NO right to keep my baby when there was this poor infertile couple out there who deserved him and who I should think about. Their “NEED” for ANY baby was considered superior to my own need to keep MY baby.
So, if they adopted on pretense of being infertile, and then had 2 of their own, morally maybe they should have returned my son to me? He certainly wanted that, as did I.
He was never treated the same way as the 2 natural children of his (former) adoptive parents. He never felt loved. I am glad I found him again.

Adoptees used to cure a couple's infertiltiy... imagine the side-effects that might bring!

by Kerry on Tuesday, 11 August 2009