What's with the name of this website?
Since it's public debut, the name of our website, Pound Pup Legacy, has received much criticism, especially from birth-mothers. Their objection has been directed at the disparaging reference that birth-mothers are little more than breeding dogs, and the children "chosen" for adoption are being depicted as unwanted animals that have been cast-away without much thought.
Sadly, in many corners of Adoptionland, many adoptees and birth-mothers are seen and treated in that light.
The term "Pound Pup" itself originated back in 2005. When I myself was very active on the pro-adoption website, Adoption.con, I would submit many posts about abuse in the adoptive home. While many of my comments got admonished and criticized, by both adopters and adoptees, there was still a small yet growing group of adoptees who could easily relate to my point of view regarding the adoption process, the adoptive home, and key adoption issues often covered on "open forums" welcoming all sides of the adoption triad.
This small but often attacked group of supporters encouraged me to keep speaking my mind about the anger I felt towards birth parents, adoption agencies, adoptive child collectors and those who would keep adopted children, but treat them like they were sub-human...like a dog. [Please refer to our abuse archives that feature forced confinement, discipline, and torture.]
The name "Pound Pup" was first used by a married male adoptee who would not post in-public, but would email, privately. Although he was very much a successful professional and father of two, he saw himself as being the runt among many. He viewed himself as one of the less-desirable adoptable pups kept in an over-crowded shelter, waiting for a new "permanent" home. He was adopted, eventually. His adoptive father used to beat him, and his depressed adoptive mother killed herself on his fifteenth birthday.
"It's as if I was the unwanted runt. The one no one wanted to keep, the one no one could stand to like or love, or stay with. No one really knows what it's like to be the Pound Pup no one really wants. In fact, the only one who knows what it's like to be a Pound Pup is a poor pathetic fellow Pound Pup. It sucks being a Pound Pup, but no one wants to hear what it is we experience....what it is we go through because everyone wants to hear the hunky-dory adoption story that says, 'I was adopted: I was wanted and loved'."
The name and description stuck. Yes, we with the crappy adoption-story could very easily identify with the child who became The Pound Pup.
When PPL was created, Niels and I decided each Pound Pup has a story to tell; each victim touched by a bad/corrupt adoption experience needs their hurt and scars to be seen, even if sometimes that sharing needs to be done anonymously.
The trials and tortures experienced here on the Dark Side of adoption deserve to be recognized and acknowledged with an open heart and eye. It's been my own hope the work we do creates a legacy for those in and entering the adoption community. Our collection of articles, videos and case archives are presented so an open and honest dialogue can begin. It's my dream one day this dialogue and new awareness about old themes will result in a radical change in heart, perspective and policy within the adoption industry.
Pound Pup Legacy was named and created to serve as a homage to those hurt by the adoption industry. PPL is not a name to be criticized. PPL is a very personal heartfelt endeavor, one that deserves a measure of respect, sympathy, and sincere interest, even from its harshest non-believers and critics.
On behalf on ALL Original Pound Pups, I want readers to view our pages with the following in mind: In Adoptionland, there are hundreds of thousands of children sent to live in terrible shelters around the world. In spite of claims of proper vetting of adoptive parents, these children are given to horrific new owners, all in the name of "a child's best interest". We Pound Pups have been wounded in ways many cannot imagine. We have develop survival skills and coping mechanisms that go unrecognized and overlooked, or worse, get misunderstood and treated as if we entered an adoptive home with the types of mental illnesses that often get associated with genetics and maternal influence. Our adoptions issues are far more complex than the those that go with racial identity and the age old question, "Who is my mother?".
PPL is a labor or love, a heart-breaking reality, and a must-read-and-follow for anyone passionate about a child's best interest, and adoption reform. In short, PPL was created to bring a simple awareness: no child put-in-care should ever have to know what it feels like to be, and live like, a Pound Pup.