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adoption - where stockholm syndrome is condoned

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for those of you who don't know,

stockholm syndrome

is when captees start to sympathize with their captors. 

for outsiders who are appalled at that captivity,

stockholm syndrome

is seen as a direct result of brainwashing.

it seems pretty clear to me that adopted children are captive audiences. 

it would be interesting to compare the phases of captivity with the phases of adoption.

stockholm syndrome

seems to not only be condoned, but encouraged in adoptive families. 

i was regularly asked about my adoption experience by others, to which i knew i was supposed to give a positive answer and to which, over time and with the reinforcement of my parents i came to believe that message.  i now realize i was in no position to analyze or realize the truth of my position in that family, and that i had no recourse BUT to say anything else.  i had to sympathize with my parents, because that was the only choice i had. 

who is sadder, the adopted child happily and dumbly accepting this simple charade, or the adoptive parents, willing to settle for coerced love ?

by almost_human on Saturday, 26 July 2008