Fact Sheet: Children in Residential Treatment Centers

from: bazelon.org

I. Tens of thousands of children with mental health needs are being placed in expensive, inappropriate and often dangerous institutions.

The number of children placed in residential treatment centers (or RTCs)[1] is growing exponentially.[2] These modern-day orphanages now house more than 50,000 children nationwide.[3]  Children are packed off to RTCs, often sent by officials they have never met, who have probably never spoken to their parents, teachers or social workers.[4] Once placed, these kids may have no meaningful contact with their families or friends for up to two years.[5] And, despite many documented cases of neglect and physical and sexual abuse, monitoring is inadequate to ensure that children are safe, healthy and receiving proper services in RTCs.[6] By funneling children with mental illnesses into the RTC system, states fail—at enormous cost—to provide more effective community-based mental health services.[7]

A. RTC placements are often inappropriate.

RTCs are among the most restrictive mental health services and, as such, should be reserved for children whose dangerous behavior cannot be controlled except in a secure setting.[8] Too often, however, child-serving bureaucracies hastily place children in RTCs because they have not made more appropriate community-based services available.[9] Parents who are desperate to meet their kids’ needs often turn to RTCs because they lack viable alternatives.[10]

To make placement decisions, families in crisis and overburdened social workers rely on the institutions’ glossy flyers and professional websites with testimonials of saved children.[11] But all RTCs are not alike.[12] Local, state and national exposés and litigation “regarding the quality of care in residential treatment centers have shown that some programs promise high-quality treatment but deliver low-quality custodial care.”[13] As a result, parents and state officials play a dangerous game of Russian roulette as they decide where to place children, because little public information is available about the RTCs, which are under-regulated and under-supervised. 

To make it worse, far too many children are placed at great distance from their homes. For example, most District of Columbia children in RTCs are placed outside the District—many as far away as Utah and Minnesota.[14] Many families, especially those with limited means, find it impossible to have any meaningful visitation with their children.   

B. Evidence is limited on the effectiveness of RTCs.

Children frequently arrive at RTCs traumatized by the process that delivered them there. They are often forcibly removed from their homes in the middle of the night by “escort companies.”[15]  Other times, children are placed in RTCs not by their parents or doctors, but by overburdened child-serving state agencies, who know little about the children’s individual needs.[16]

Even more appalling, many children’s conditions do not improve at all while at the RTC.[17] In fact, there is little evidence that placing children in RTCs has any positive impact at all on their mental health state[18] and any gains made during a stay in an RTC quickly disappear upon discharge, creating a cycle where children return again and again to RTCs.[19] 

There are many reasons why RTCs fail to deliver the results they promise, but most center on the type of services provided, the environment they are provided in and the lack of family involvement.

First, the reality of what occurs within an RTC is often quite different from the highly individualized, highly structured programs that are advertised. The RTCs often provide less intense services and the staff are often under-trained.[20] Children spend much of their day with staff who  are not much more qualified than the average parent and they spend less time face-to-face with psychiatrists than they would if they were being served in appropriate community settings.[21]

The environment is also problematic because children in RTCs enter a situation where their only peers are other troubled children—a major risk factor for later behavioral problems.[22] Research has demonstrated that some children learn antisocial or bizarre behavior from intensive exposure to other disturbed children.[23]

Children are usually far from home in RTCs, often out-of-state.[24] Removed from their families and natural support systems, they are unable to draw upon the strengths of their communities and their communities are unable to contribute to their treatment. Few children thrive when they are hundreds or thousands of miles from their parents, friends, grandparents and teachers. Few can flourish without the guidance of consistent parenting. Yet, we expect that our most vulnerable and troubled youth will miraculously turn around in just such a situation. Instead, this isolation further reduces the efficacy of treatment and increases its cost.[25] 

The fact that children and their families are far from one another creates a host of problems. For one, it makes family therapy difficult or impossible. As a result, when children leave the RTC, they return to an environment that has not changed. Also, because the RTC environment is inherently artificial—children are not asked to negotiate the obstacles that occur within their family setting or deal with the difficulties that trigger their behaviors in their neighborhoods or schools—the child does not gain new skills to better negotiate life outside of an institution. As a result, neither the children nor their parents learn better ways to overcome the obstacles that led to the RTC placement. Without family involvement, successes are limited.[26]

Among the rare children who are able to overcome these obstacles, few can sustain the gains they have made. In one study, nearly 50% of children were readmitted to an RTC, and 75% were either renstitutionalized or arrested.[27]   

C. Children suffer because there is no watchdog.

The RTC industry is largely unregulated.[28] RTCs need only report major unusual incidents (or MUIs), but the interpretation of what constitutes an MUI and the reporting requirements vary widely.[29] Some RTCs fail to report MUIs at all—with little consequence.[30] Vulnerable kids are placed far from home where parents, social workers, or the state can offer little oversight or protection.  Worse, many of the facilities limit children’s ability to have contact with their parents for extended periods, further restricting the parents’ ability to monitor the facilities.[31]

D. Children are abused in RTCs.

Children placed in RTCs have been sexually and physically abused, restrained for hours, over-medicated and subject to militaristic punishments; some have died.[32] The following are just a few documented examples of tragic occurrences at RTCs:

  • Medication is often used (and overused) to control behavior.[33] Children have been permanently disfigured because of over-medication.[34]

  • In some programs, the children’s shoes are confiscated to keep them from running away.[35]

  • There have been reports of behavioral ‘therapies’ being misused. As one author noted, “Such therapies do little more than systematically punish children, all under the guise of treatment . . . .”[36]

  • Sexual abuse by staff members and other residents is all too frequent.[37] In one case, a 13-year old girl performed sexual favors for staff members in return for snacks and carryout food.[38] At one RTC, four boys were accused of trying to sodomize another with a cucumber.[39] At another, a 19-year-old woman was charged with sodomizing a 14-year-old girl.[40]

  • Physical abuse is also too frequent an occurrence. For example, a 13-year-old boy was forced against a wall and slammed to the floor by employees of an RTC.[41]

  • Children are often restrained—sometimes for hours on end. The overuse of restraint has resulted in child deaths.[42]  

E. Tragic outcomes at great public expense.

RTCs have grown to a billion-dollar, largely private industry.[43] Residential treatment care is exorbitantly expensive—costing up to $700 per child per day.[44] Annual costs can exceed $120,000.[45] Most of the time, the public foots the bill for these services.[46] In fact, nearly one fourth of the national outlay on child mental health is spent on care in these settings.[47]   

II. Other Interventions Work Better for Less

Home- and community-based services are much more therapeutically effective than institutional services, and are also markedly more cost-efficient. As the Surgeon General reported, “the most convincing evidence of effectiveness is for home-based services and therapeutic foster care” and not for RTCs.[48] A comprehensive system of care would dramatically reduce the number of children in RTCs.[49] 

Community-based alternatives produce better short- and long-term results and are less disruptive to children and families. These alternatives provide intensive mental health treatment, mobilize community resources and help children and their families develop effective coping mechanisms. Some models endeavor to “wrap services around” the child, while others emphasize multi-systemic therapy and crisis intervention. Randomized clinical trials found greater declines in delinquency and behavioral problems, greater increases in functioning, greater stability in housing placements and greater likelihood of permanent placement.[50] In Milwaukee, a wraparound project that has served over 700 youth involved in juvenile justice has shown similar promise; use of residential treatment has declined 60%, use of psychiatric hospitalization has declined 80%, and average overall care costs for target youth have dropped by one third.[51]  


[1] According to the Surgeon General, a RTC is a “licensed 24-hour facility (although not licensed as a hospital), which offers mental health treatment.” U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. 1999. Mental Health: A Report of the Surgeon General. Washington, DC: Author. Available at: http://www.surgeongeneral.gov/library/mentalhealth/chapter3/sec7.html#treatment.

[2] In 1982, when Jane Knitzer wrote the seminal book, Unclaimed Children, the growth in the RTC industry was only beginning. Ms. Knitzer wrote that: “In contrast to the minimal efforts to create nonresidential services, 18 of the 44 states responding to our survey were working to increase residential care.” Knitzer, J., Unclaimed Children: The Failure of Public Responsibility to Children and Adolescents in Need of Mental Health Care, Children’s Defense Fund, 1982, at 45. By 1986, the number of children in RTCs had grown to 25,334, an increase of more than 30% over a three-year period. Rivera, V.R. & Kutash, K. (1994), Components of a System of Care. What Does the Research Say?, Residential Services: Psychiatric Hospitals and Residential Treatment Centers, at 8, Tampa , FL: University of South Florida, Florida Mental Health Institute: The Research and Training Center for Children’s Mental Health. This growth in continuing. See infra, at note 3.

[3] Latest Findings in Children’s Mental Health, Nearly 66,000 Youth Live in U.S, Mental Health Programs, Vo1. 2, No. 1 (Summer 2003). In 1997, the year in which the most recent data was available, more than 42,000 children were living in RTCs. Given the expansion of children living in RTCs, see supra note 2, this figure is likely well over 50,000 now.

[4] Reports to staff attorneys at the Bazelon Center for Mental Health Law. For example, in Washington, D.C., children are certified to go to RTCs by a “Multi-Agency Planning Team” process (or MAPT process). The MAPT meetings often do not include the voices of the people who know the child and family best.

[5] Ohio Rights Service Review of Fifteen Children’s Mental Health Facilities (October 2004) (on file with the Bazelon Center)

[6] See infra at sections I(C) and I(D).

[7] This development of long-term residential care occurred at the expense of community-based alternatives. Jane Knitzer, as far back as 1982, noted that: “In general, funds were used to develop long-term residential care, with few efforts to support or create emergency shelters, respite care programs, or specialized foster care for disturbed children and adolescents.” Unclaimed Children, supra note 2, at 46.  Further, the Surgeon General noted that one of the primary reasons that RTCs are considered to be justified is because community-based alternatives are lacking. See Mental Health: A Report of the Surgeon General, supra note 1.

[8] Duchnowski, A.J., Hall, K. S., Kutash, K, and Friedman, R. (1998) The Alternatives to Residential Treatment Study, in Outcomes for Child and Youth with Behavioral and Emotional Disorders and Their Families. See also Mental Health: A Report of the Surgeon General, supra note 1.

[9] Mental Health: A Report of the Surgeon General, supra note 1, (“Concerns about residential care primarily relate to criteria for admission . . . .”).

[10] Lou Kilzer, Desperate Measures, Rocky Mountain News, July 2, 1999, available at: http://www.denver-rmn.com/desperate/site-desperate/front-pg.htm.

[11] Id.

[12] Mental Health: A Report of the Surgeon General, supra note 1, (“Settings range from structured ones, resembling psychiatric hospitals, to those that are more like group homes or halfway houses.”); Rivera, V.R. & Kutash, K. (1994), Components of a System of Care. What Does the Research Say?, Tampa , FL: University of South Florida, Florida Mental Health Institute: The Research and Training Center for Children’s Mental Health. 

[13] Jane Knitzer noted this fact in 1982 in Unclaimed Children, supra note 2, at 46. The calls for reform have only increased as the population of children served in RTCs has grown. See infra at note 29 and accompanying text.

[14] Scott Higham and Sewell Chan, District Reexamines Out of Town Centers, The Washington Post, July 16, 2003, available at: http://www.washingtonpost.com/ac2/wp-dyn?pagename=article&contentId=A61386-2003Jul15&notFound=trueSee also, D.C. Department of Mental Health Data from 2003 Children in Residential Treatment Centers (on file at the Bazelon Center).

[15] Kilzer, supra note 10.

[16] Supra, note 4.

[17] Mental Health: A Report of the Surgeon General, supra note 1.

[18] Burns, B.J., Hoagwood, K. & Maultsby, L.T., Improving Outcomes for Children and Adolescents with Serious Emotional and Behavioral Disorders: Current and Future Directions. (“A dominant observation is that the least evidence of effectiveness exists for residential services, where the vast majority of dollars are spent.”); Chamberlain, P. , Treatment Foster Care, US Department of Justice, Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, Juvenile Justice Bulletin, December, 1998.

[19] Brown, E.C. & Greenbaum, P.E., Reinstitutionalization After Discharge from Residential Mental Health Facilities: Competing Risks Survival Analysis.

[20] Kilzer, supra note 10.

[21] Client reports to Bazelon Center staff attorneys.

[22] Mental Health: A Report of the Surgeon General, supra note 1.

[23] Mental Health: A Report of the Surgeon General, supra note 1.

[24] See, e.g., supra note 14 and accompanying text.

[25] National Council on Crime and Delinquency, Focus Newsletter, July 16, 2002 (“[Residential treatment centers] are usually some distance from the youth’s community, alienating the youth from his or her known environment and adding communication and travel costs to the families and communities.”)

[26] Myrth Ogilvie, Transitioning From Residential Treatment: Family Involvement & Helpful Supports, in Focal Point (2001), available at: http://www.rtc.pdx.edu/FPinHTML/FocalPointSP01/pgFPsp01Transitioning.shtml.

[27] Supra note 25.

[28] Since their inception, RTCs have been under-monitored. As Jane Knitzer noted in Unclaimed Children, supra note 2 at 46: “States have not emphasized continued monitoring of children’s care once they are in residential treatment.” Many RTCs are not accredited at all.  Further, the RTCs that are certified are accredited by the Joint Organization on Accreditation of Healthcare Organizations (JCAHO), an independent, nonprofit organization.  But as many have pointed out “JCAHO’s standards are geared mainly toward monitoring surgical and pharmacological procedures. And so RTCs, which are more like boarding schools than traditional hospitals, can become accredited under standards that have little to do with the daily programs and activities practiced in them.”  Meza-Wilson, A. & Harrison, C., Safe Choices for Troubled Teens: Residential treatment centers for troubled teens are plagued by allegations of abuse and ineffectiveness. But do anguished parents have an alternative?, August 12, 2004, available at: http://www.askquestions.org/articles/teens/.

[29] Ohio Rights Service Review, supra note 5.

[30] Id. Further, the Bazelon Center has been contacted by federally funded Protection and Advocacy organizations who never or rarely received MUIs from the RTCs serving children within their jurisdiction.

[31] Friesen, B.J., Kruzich, J.M.,  Robinson, A., Jivanjee, P., Pullmann, M. & Bowles, C.,  Straining the Ties that Bind: Limits on Parent-Child Contact in Out-Of-Home Care, in Focal Point (2001), available at: http://www.rtc.pdx.edu/FPinHTML/FocalPointSP01/pgFPsp01Straining.shtml.

[32] See e.g., Scott Higham and Sewell Chan, Poor Care, Abuses Alleged at Riverside, The Washington Post, July 15, 2003, available at: http://www.washingtonpost.com/ac2/wp-dyn?pagename=article&contentId=A56180-2003Jul14&notFound=true; Kilzer, supra note 10; Associated Press, Death At Residential Treatment Center Ruled a Homicide, May 16, 2002, available at: http://www.geocities.com/ahobbit.geo/residential_treatment.html; Tim Weiner, Parents Divided Over Jamaica Disciplinary Academy, The New York Times, June 17, 2003; Ohio Rights Service Review, supra note 5; Tanya Eiserer, Death of teen at therapy facility investigated: Richardson 17-year-old died being restrained by staff in Hill Country, Dallas Morning News, October 17, 2002; Jorge Fitz-Gibbon, Leah Rae and Shawn Cohen, Treatment Often Hampered By Bureaucracy, The Journal News, June 23, 2002, available at: http://www.nyjournalnews.com/rtc/rtc062302_01.html.

[33] Higham and Chan, supra note 32.

[34]  Reports to staff attorneys at the Bazelon Center for Mental Health Law.

[35] Kilzer, supra note 10.

[36] Unclaimed Children, supra note 2, at 46.

[37] Kilzer, supra note 10.

[38] Higham and Chan, supra note 32.

[39] Fitz-Gibbon, Rae and Cohen, supra note 32.

[40] Id.

[41] Higham and Chan, supra note 32.

[42] Associated Press, supra note 32.

[43] Fitz-Gibbon, Rae and Cohen, supra note 32.

[44] Kilzer, supra note 10.

[44] Higham and Chan, supra note 32.

[45] Fitz-Gibbon, Rae and Cohen, supra note 32.

[46]  Id.

[47] Mental Health: Report of the Surgeon General, supra note 1.

[48] Id.

[49]  Id.  The Surgeon General suggests that RTCs are often utilized because of the under-availability of community-based alternatives.

[50] Bruns, E.J., Serving Youths with Emotional and Behavioral Problems in Maryland: Opportunities for the Use of the Wraparound Approach, University of Maryland School of Medicine, Department of Psychiatry, September 17, 2003 (on file at the Bazelon Center). 

[51] Id. at 2.


RAD therapy for children and families

I was just reading an article written by a therapist about the treatments options a parent with a RAD child has:

Most RAD children can be helped through outpatient therapy. In the most severe situations your child may need placement in a residential treatment center. If you have not tried outpatient attachment therapy, I would recommend this intervention be tried first. I have seen dramatic results with severely troubled children using outpatient help.

When therapy is conducted several modalities can be used: individual, parent, family and group therapies. In my experience, doing individual (just the child) or group therapy (many children) with the RAD child is largely ineffective. This is because most RAD children lie, minimize, and deny their problems. Without the parent’s input, the RAD child can effectively fool or manipulate almost all clinicians. In a group setting, RAD children are not likely to be open or honest. Parents have not reported success when their children were in individual or group therapy. I use family therapy exclusively. The parents are always present when I work with their child. This gives me access to the truth. Without the facts, help is impossible.

Family therapy is the most effective modality for other reasons. Parents are the most powerful, responsible and influential people in their child’s life. They are the therapist’s greatest ally in helping a RAD child. Consequently, teaching and educating parents how to bond with their children becomes a major part of family-based attachment therapy.

The therapy needs to be confrontive. The RAD child cannot be given a choice in talking about his problems. If the decision is left up to the child, he will generally meet for months or years and not discuss his present problems or past trauma. When the parents are present, he can be more accurately confronted with his issues. This makes the therapy unpleasant and difficult for the child. Until he has made significant progress in bonding to his parents, the child will usually detest the therapy. One rule of thumb for me has been, “If your child likes his therapy, it probably is not being helpful.” In all likelihood, therapy is fun because your child is allowed to avoid his problems and be in control of the process.

The most useful attachment therapy also provides extensive help to the parents. Nothing in our normal growing up years or adulthood prepares us to parent RAD children well. Parents of RAD children need information and training on how to therapeutically parent their children. The therapy should give parents ideas and skills that accomplish the following goals:

  • 1. The therapy should educate parents about RAD. It should help you understand why your child thinks, feels, and acts the way he does. Understanding your child often leads to increased feelings of compassion for him.
  • 2. Therapy should teach you how to protect yourself from your child’s pathology. Most parents, particularly mothers, feel very frustrated, beat-up, and victimized by their child. In order for you to have more loving feelings for him, you will need to stop being assaulted or victimized by your child. Parents need help learning to secure their own safety in spite of their child continuing to be hurtful.

  • 3. Attachment therapy should teach you consequential parenting skills. These skills will help you regain control of your child as well as create a bond with him.

  • 4. The therapy should teach you bonding or attachment activities. Your child will not get over RAD through just talking. Both in the clinician’s office and at home, the therapy should be experiential. These experiences should be designed to impact the whole person, his body, mind, heart and soul. Your child will never become bonded through a verbal, logical, thoughtful, insightful, analytical series of conversations whether conducted by a therapist or yourself. You will not bond your child by saying the most profound statement at just the right time.

  • 5. Attachment therapy should teach you how to use holding for nurturing as well as for control. Holding is controversial both inside and outside the professional community. Your therapist should discuss the use of holding openly with you. As a result, you should be able to make an informed decision about what treatment is best for your child. Ultimately, it is your decision whether or not to use therapeutic holding in an attempt to help your child.

When Foster W. Cline, M.D. began working with RAD in the early 1970’s, little was known about RAD. Even less was known about how to help these very troubled children. It was apparent that they did not respond to conventional therapy. An innovative therapy called Holding Therapy (also labeled Rage Reduction Therapy) showed promise. Over the years, the therapy has been used by an increasing number of professionals. As more clinicians have used holding with RAD children, the therapy has been refined and redefined. As a result, a diversity of interventions exist among professionals using this modality. They all have the same label, namely Holding Therapy. While there are common threads, a wide variety of therapeutic activities now take place within the definition of Attachment or Holding Therapy.

Some attachment therapists do not believe in using the holding modality but many do. Some do not believe the parents should hold their child delegating that task only to therapists. Others teach parents to do most, if not all, the holding. Some use only nurturing holding while others also use holding for control (restraining or containing holding). Without actually talking to each specific therapist, a parent should not presume to know what a therapy involves just by knowing that the therapist does Attachment or Holding Therapy.

RAD children are almost always intensely angry children. If therapy is effective it will constructively address the child’s anger. One therapeutic goal is to reduce the child’s anger. When it works, this is a sign of success. Hence, the label Rage Reduction Therapy was fitting. Present attachment therapies, however, address a broader range of emotions, including intense fear and sadness. All attachment therapy of which I am aware has an emphasis on addressing the child’s troubling emotions versus being only a cognitive or behavioral approach.

The goal of therapy for a RAD child is not to directly reduce his anger or to change his behaviors. The ultimate goal is to attach or bond the child to his parents. The goal is not to develop a good relationship between the child and therapist, but between the child and his parents. As such the therapy is most accurately called Attachment Therapy. When your child becomes bonded, changes will take place spontaneously. Changes in emotions, behaviors, attitudes, and thinking will happen automatically.

This point is critical to understanding RAD treatment. We do not treat anger and behavior in order to create a bond. We create a parental bond which in and of itself changes the anger and behavior.

RAD is a condition with a wide range of severity. Do not approach it lightly hoping you can heal it yourself by reading several articles or books. While educating yourself is helpful, it is rarely by itself the solution. Seek help, for both diagnosis and treatment, as both are becoming more available. Many families settle for months or years of therapy with no appreciable improvement. Continue to search for a clinician who can help you and your child. http://www.reactiveattachmentdisordertreatment.com/ssi/article3.html

The problem I have with RAD therapy is the assumption that the adoptee came to a family "that way".  KNOWING how rampant abuse is in an adoptive home, how likely is a child going to get therapy that addresses abuse and trust, when that child is labled with "manipulative, lying RAD behavior"?

Seems to me, "Family" is the cause, but few treatment options are addressing these issues properly.  Clearly, neither an institution nor ignorance is going to be The Answer for future wellness... so what other options does a suffering adoptee have in life?

From your point of view

From your point of view and your question, I can now learn to look at this completely, instead of from an ap point of view only.

"RTCs are among the most restrictive mental health services and, as such, should be reserved for children whose dangerous behavior cannot be controlled except in a secure setting."

My oldest of the three middle children came home with RAD; the other two did NOT.  So I can fully understand you stating
 the "Family" as the cause.   But I do want to add that in some instances both families contribute to the cause of RAD in the
child that is adopted; especially the ones adopted after babyhood, and special needs children.

That son has spent five years in the RTC for teen sex offenders.  My choices were:  take him home NOW (just after learning of the ongoing abuse to his siblings) or voluntarily TPR.  That son even told me, "mom, don't let me come home or I'll do it again."  I admire him for his honesty!  I do love him.  So I had no choice; there was to be NO family therapy and confronting of issues.  Oh, I tried, but the therapist was soon fired because he was only there to groom teen boys. 

My son was sent, with the other 20 boys, to the public school where he and another boy from the home sodomized each other and also got on porn sites at that school. My son confessed that over the phone and when I talked to the man in charge I was told to keep it quiet or all the boys would be pulled from the public school to be home-schooled...  Scared shitless of everyone involved, plus not knowing of the other EVIL that existed in my own home, I did voluntary TPR.  The school was never notified but the other boy was sent somewhere else immediately.

Again, I bare my soul

My first hand knowledge of RTC's is that they are EVIL! 


The Double-Whammie

in some instances both families contribute to the cause of RAD in the
child that is adopted; especially the ones adopted after babyhood, and special needs children.

EXACTLY!!!  All too often I believe adoption advocates place blame on biology for bonding problems, when in fact, adoption only aids in a child's sense of parental alienation.  The fact that abuse DOES take place in foster/adoptive homes proves there is no safety within our Child Protection system.

Perhaps what troubles me most is knowing so many adults from abused homes think adoption is the best option to a New Beginning, simply because a new ("biologically clean"?) slate is better than a tarnished one caused by a legacy of child-abusers.  I think in this sense, adoption services should mandate family therapy BEFORE the application process, so trust, neglect and sexual issues can be discussed before a strange child is brought into a new set of family dynamics.  [Think of it as a Pre-Cana for adoptive parenting!] After all, unless an adult is healed from past-pain, that pain can easily manifest itself again through another woman's child.   The legacy of abuse has to end, and I believe the best time to attack The Past is before children become part of the family picture.

Let me ask you, what sort of information/support were you given before you were approved for adoption?  Do you feel like you were properly prepared for the care of a child with an abusive past?


When it was found out that the oldest of the middle three had come home a sexually abused child and was acting out, the social worker wrote Korea back and stated (without my knowledge):  "This family was a foster family for over four years and dealt with sexually abused children; they have the knowledge and ability to handle this child."   BULLSHIT!
WE specifically had stated to her we could NOT handle the children we fostered who had been SA!  The last one we had was the only NON sexually abused child out of the 12 we had at different times.  We stated we would take special needs children but NOT sexually abused children!  15 days after he was home is when the telex from Korea arrived stating the foster mother just came forward to confess her not telling the truth about this child...

"Let me ask you, what sort of information/support were you given before you were approved for adoption?"

Our (10 families) information was four Saturdays at 4 hours each of videos and small talk about the impending change
that would take place in our families once that precious baby /child arrived.  NO ONE went away from them
in trepidation of what MIGHT happen.  And only with the last child did we see a video of teen adoptees who
in any way said ANYTHING about there being a negative with their adoptions, and that was about being the
only Asian child in the town or learning a new language at 5 years old!  People would bring in their lovely adopted
children and show them off for us.  BINGO!  You're approved!

FACT from what I saw:  Prospective adoptive families have their eyes buried in the small pictures of  gorgeous
babies/children in the adoption magazines that line the tables of the agency, or the small picture of the special
needs child that is already going to be theirs because they were almost instantly approved. 
They can NOT hear, even if it were said, words of negativism about adoption.  But I will say that there have been
so many disruptions of adoptions lately that the parents lined up for special needs adoptions are put in a pile of
all the others willing to adopt special needs children and then a month later the lucky family is called.  The overseas
agency has few requirements on the families who adopt special needs children.


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