When does pregnancy become a "family crisis"?
I've been reading about the history of Bastards, and how a name given by an unwed-mother, versus the married father, affects the state's view of a child. Unless both church and state want to regulate the sexuality of an individual, (and ability to procreate), sex and pregnancy will (almost) always go hand-in-hand, regardless of wedded-connection. Churches don't like this. In fact, many industries don't like this because a drop in marriage is a drop in money being made. Imagine, for a moment, how much money the "marriage tradition" brings the United States' economy each year. Of course, the more traditional the family, the more elaborate the celebration, which means more money can (and "should") be poured into a "once-in-a-lifetime" event that will be remembered by the happy couple, (and their parents), for the rest of their productive lives.
God-forbid a "good-little girl" disappoints her well-groomed parents by denying them the pleasure of walking their precious daughter down the wedding isle, leading her to the chosen-groom, waiting for that sweet-moment of a turning innocence, only to realize the symbolic gesture of father kissing the bride, and shaking the new-son's hand is nothing more than a meaningless tradition, because girl and boy sealed the deal months ago and now have a child-in-tow!
It seems pregnancy is a betrayal to man-kind, only when it's not poperly controlled by the men-in-charge. [And yet, men are encouraged to sow their seeds and play-the-field, regardless of consequence, because "traditionally", that's what men are supposed to do: populate the earth!]
It's bone-chilling to read how universally accepted it is to punish women for having sex with men who keep track of their sperm-fillings like a distracted animal will keep track of his own turd-droppings. Rare is a man denied his right to seek personal gratification... and rare is the who does not stop and say to herself: "it was not supposed to be like this!"
A new term has come to my attention today... one that really triggered my senses... it's the Adoption Industry's updated version of "unplanned pregnancy".
A pregnancy outside of marriage is now seen as a "Crisis Pregnancy", [Yes, "crisis" because that can mean anything to a parent... "crisis" is BAD, and no one wants anything BAD in their lives!] Perhaps most troubling to me is the powers behind this clever-re-naming, because it shows just how motivated certain groups are to make money, while "saving souls". Behold the "new Anti-Abortion Crisis Pregnancy Centers":
In small and large towns throughout the United States (and all over the Internet), anti-abortion groups have set up "crisis pregnancy centers" or "pregnancy counseling centers" or "pregnancy help centers." They are often located near high schools. These centers follow a format suggested by the Pearson Foundation that is deliberately designed to misinform and mislead young women.
Going by the names, Crisis Pregnancy Center, Pregnancy Aid, Birth Right, Open Door, or Pregnancy Counseling Center, these groups want to be the first contact a woman makes when she thinks she might be pregnant, so they can talk her out of considering abortion.
Anti-abortion pregnancy centers are listed in the yellow pages under "abortion alternatives." They do NOT provide abortion. Many offer free pregnancy tests or pregnancy counseling as a means to lure you in. On the Internet they also use deceptive names like prochoice.com, and pregnancycenters.org.
Nearly all of these centers are operated by churches or religious organizations. They refer to themselves as a "ministry" to save women's souls.
Most anti-abortion centers will not give out information by phone, they insist you come into their office. Women have reported waiting up to an hour for the results of a pregnancy test and being forced to watch anti-abortion videos while they wait surrounded by anti-abortion propaganda. Some women have then been denied the results of their pregnancy test when they say they want an abortion or that they need the test result to apply for medical assistance.
Women describe being harassed, intimidated, and given blatantly false information, or being forced to pray with the crisis pregnancy center's staff. They complain that their confidential information was used against them. In some cases, they were followed home, and mail and phone calls intruded into their homes. http://www.fwhc.org/abortion/fake.htm
As a married woman and mother to four... it would be a cold-day in hell before I would ask my daughter to get rid of her baby, because the father got-up and ran, yet how do we prevent unmarried parental abandonment from happening?
What needs to be taught to our sons, so men don't leave the woman with his child?