The One and Only
I've been thinking a lot about the choices we make in partnerships, and I have to wonder if adoptees see Love as being a matter of "finding someone special" or is it more like a race, hoping to be "found among a crowd"?
I know for myself, I dated all sorts of men -- from the very wealthy and influencial to the poorest of the poor. What made one better over the other was the effort made to keep my interest. Money was NOT the way to my heart as much as personal attention was, so for me, my attention/attraction always belonged to the guy who made the most effort to keep me.
Does any of this sound familiar to anyone else?
Can someone explain if Love is about Finding or Keeping?
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Accepting
I would say love is more about accepting than about finding or keeping. My dating life, if I may speak of such a thing at all, had for the longest time the same pattern; either I was not interesting at all, or I was a great guy, but. Only very rarely did I meet a woman who would accept me as a man, instead of a nice, but otherwise a-sexual human being. I always hoped to find someone special, or even stronger find that One person special and to be honest, those women who regarded me as a "great guy, but.." were also in my mind never that One person I was looking for. It was frustrating at the time, but probably all for the better it went this way, those few one night stands I did have were a huge disappointment afterall.