Nature v. Nurture (with a twist, of course)
One of those topics people like to discuss/argue with me is Nature v. Nurture. [People also like to discuss subjects like The Pope with me. Why? I think they like to see me get pissed-off... but that's just my theory.]
Today i was trying to cash a check. What a joke that was. You see, my life is a mixture of madness and macabre misadventure all rolled into twisted cases of iron-clad stupidity that just can't be made-up. I accept things As Is, because i have no choice. The Fates are what they are... I'm just here for the ride and I seem to entertain Others with my misery. I am living-proof that The Creator has a sick and demented sense of humor... such is strife.
So... as i was being told i was not allowed to have cash back from my check made out to cash, I remembered i married my mother, so it all made sense. I was born with a natural ability to make seemingly unrelated topics, connect and relate. A skill not at all nurtured by my adoptive family.
Where am I going with this?
Nature v. Nurture, sillies.
It's not natural to have to endure what I accept on a daily basis.... but i was razed to accept what others tell me; nothing less would do. I learned to question everything, but keep my thoughts to myself. It hurts less that way.
I love when I get myself into Theoretical Debates related to homosexuality. [Where else does Nature v. Nurture crop-up so easily and naturally?] A few months back I was shown an article that discussed studies done (decades ago) on dead bodies "proving" homosexuality is indeed a biological state of Whatever in the brain. My response was in essence, "so what? The study is misleading and outadated. It means NOTHING"
That's right: SO WHAT?!?
In the whole scheme of things, WHY does it matter if homosexuality is biological or psychologically designed in our brains? Does it lessen the value/importance a human life has?
Not as far as I'm concerned. I took care of both homosexual and heterosexual AIDS victims. BOTH types of sexually-oriented people died heinous deaths. ALL members of those families suffered in their own ways. I doubt anyone felt sexy or frisky after Visiting Hours... God knows it changed MY Ideas on dating AND drug use!
What lessens a person's Value and Importance is how that person is treated by others. ESPECIALLY by that person's FAMILY.
So... Nature v. Nurture....
It is NOT Natural to have to lie about your own identity. It is NOT Natural to have to lie about your own parents ("who's your mother and father?"). And it is NOT Natural to pretend to love someone when you really wish to be free from that person who suffocates you.
Period.
My Nature is to be loving and forgiving. God knows how i became that way... it sure as hell wasn't taught By Example to me!!!
My Nurturing style is sorta like a slap-n-tickle approach. One of my most favorite things to hear a person say in laughing amusement is, "Only Kerry can get away with that!"
That's because the face that taunts & teases is the one that cries & bleeds behind closed doors.
Speaking of behind closed-doors... I wonder how many adoptees consider themselves Naturally Homosexual?