Pound Pup Legacy

The sperm donor, aka my bio-father, was better without me.

My birthmother, aka, first mom, was better without me.

My Aparents, after they learned the truth about my childhood ("family") experience, were better without me (and the reminders I bring....).

<HUGE BIG BREATH>

My life... it has been an unwanted burden.  A burden others could do without.

<deep, deep, deeper cleansing breath>

When I read Michael Pearl's arrogant response to what he refers to as his "critics" http://pearlchildtraining.blogspot.com/2010/03/michael-pearl-laughs-at-c... yesterday, I became physically ill. I thought to myself, Michael Pearl is insufferable. How wrong to bring up the plastic whip, to relate it to his dogs and chickens, and children. He shows absolutely no remorse. No clarifications. Just arrogance. At first, I thought he will answer someday to his God, you know!

Over the years we have posted extensively about abuse in adoptive families, and within our archives collected information about many different abuse cases. Abuse in adoptive families comes in many shapes and forms, ranging from neglect to deprivation, sexual abuse, exploitation and physical abuse.

When looking at the physical abuse cases, there seem to be two patterns that often emerge. Children, especially babies, beaten or shaken violently, and cases related to so-called "discipline".

It seems from now on, those criticizing the adoption industry need to embrace the phrasology used by those adoption advocates who prefer to use Positive Adoption Language when they write/speak.  Away with child trafficking or illegal adoptions... they look very bad and are not the sort of phrases AP's will want to use.

My soon-to-be sixteen year old daughter asked for a hug yesterday.

Hugging is not easy for me, especially if the person who wants to be hugged is as tall/taller than me.

I remember having to hug as a child -- it always felt forced... like something I did NOT want to do.

I don't know if I'm supposed to be grabbing (wrestling) or bracing (protecting).

I don't know how to react when there's a forced invasion of my personal space. 

The more I read about the ten Baptists, waiting for word in Haiti, the more I think about Scott and Karen Banks.  The Banks thought they too were providing better lives for poor children.   In fact, they chose to make it their business to take poor children, from poor parents, and sell those Samoan children to those willing (and able) to pay the tens of thousands of dollars necessary to obtain a so-called orphaned child.

Have any of adoptee’s ever had an adoptive family member or as in my case a step-adoptive family member use the sick perverted Eugenic theory to encourage others to think badly about you?

Is my case unique?

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