Pound Pup Legacy

I began my study of Adoption & its affect on human behavior over five years ago. It (the carnage) had no name that read: Reactive Attachment Disorder. To this day, I still challenge the act and process that describes a system that has broken the lives and families of billions of babies.  Adoption , as it exists, requires more adaptations to more people than it is worth!

Despite an alphabet soup of titles, Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao, Ed.D., LCSW, LMFT, seems to be completely out of touch with reality. Of course one cannot expect a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (I admit I had look that one up), to have any understanding of economics, then why make the claim to have any knowledge on the subject.

I grew-up surrounded by miserable people.  My amother was miserable because of her own childhood and lost opportunities; my afather was miserable because of his childhood and wife's problems; and I learned to accept misery as the one part of life I could not escape.

The worst part about this breed of misery surrounding me is this:  I was told life with miserable people was not a miserable experience.

While I believe there are many people in this world working very hard to improve the lives of children, I also believe we are a far cry from being where we need to be in terms of providing proper protection for those children who need it most.

Another case has made the papers, describing life for a child placed in foster-care.

Kenneth Wilson, 27, preyed on the children from the age of five and six after "teaching" them how to perform sex acts.

Masha Allen has filed a suit against the agencies involved in her adoption. Good news for those who want to hold child placement organizations responsible and accountable for the work they are supposed to do.

The defendants in the cace are Families Thru International Adoption, inc. (FTIA), Reaching Out Thru International Adoption, inc. (ROTIA), Child Promise, inc. and Jeannene Smith.

Let me clarify that list for those not too familiar with the Masha Allen case.

I will admit, the recent written blows and criticisms submitted by one of our posting members has been crushing my spirit, making me wonder "WTF am I doing trying to help make a difference in child placement and the issues that surround the many victims it has taken?"  I'm trying to use this experience as a teaching/learning tool, but when someone attacks me for being unsympathetic to the needs of someone who wishes to name-call and bully, I tend to feel very knotted-up and angry inside.  Anytime I'm expected to take sides against one person, I r

For decades I have been trying to "find myself", and as I am just weeks before the 40th anniversary of my entrance into this world,  I think I am finally able to comfortably assign a word that best describes and defines all that has become of me.  My roles and names have been many.   I have been daughter, I have been student, I have been nurse, employee, wife and mother.  I have been annoying little sister and anti-social neighbor.  I have been drunk I have been whore, I have been the cause and reason behind a suddenly shut door.  

I am still new to all this posting on the web and such I have always been a hands on person but hands on isn't working so I am learning as I go. Here is the one web source I was able to master somewhat and if you follow this link you will find my video and a slide show of my grandson my little angel.

This week the Dutch news program Netwerk presented a story called Chinese orphanages pay for children,  This program got hold of a letter to Dutch parliament written by Dutch minister of justice, Hirsch Ballin, who addressed adoptions from China, after the Dutch department had done an investigation into "irregularities" with regards to adoption from China.

This post lasted for 73 seconds on yahoo before it was deleted... I think I hit  nerve...

Sorry I am taking the gloves off... I think I have been pretty fair thus far... so now some low blow to start out with...

If all you adoptees were smart you would get together and class action your government like us fosters are doing... if we nailed them from all sides... win could box car them into reform...